Would You Stay In The Relationship ?

[sparks19]

I"m not sure I could stay....

for crying out loud she was battling CANCER. the time when she needed the people she loved the MOST and he decided to fool around and POSSIBLY father another child? I understand that an illness such as cancer can be very trying for the spouse but honestly I don't think I could help but think "Does he really care that little for me that he would deceive me during my weakest moments?"

If things got bad for her again would he be searching for another woman to be with?

People that cheat (man or woman) in my eyes are SCUM. If you want to sleep around BE HONEST and tell your spouse you want out. Easier said than done? Well how easy is it when your spouse finds out you are a whore?

[Medusa]

People that cheat (man or woman) in my eyes are SCUM. If you want to sleep around BE HONEST and tell your spouse you want out. Easier said than done? Well how easy is it when your spouse finds out you are a whore?

IMO, people who cheat are human. I think what made this situation so deplorable is that he cheated during his wife's terminal illness, making it all about him. If you can't be there and be faithful when your significant other is terminally ill, well, it speaks volumes about your character. He's flawed, to be sure, and fortunately, he won't be our president but I think it's safe to say that situations like this occur every day and families deal w/it and move on. Mrs. Edwards knew about this long before the public did and I'm sure she had to do an energy assessment and decide just how much energy she could devote to her husband's philandering. She needed all the energy she could muster in order to survive her health ordeal.

[lizbud]

I"m not sure I could stay....

for crying out loud she was battling CANCER. the time when she needed the people she loved the MOST and he decided to fool around and POSSIBLY father another child? I understand that an illness such as cancer can be very trying for the spouse but honestly I don't think I could help but think "Does he really care that little for me that he would deceive me during my weakest moments?"

I agree. I think illness or stress could work to make a relationship even
stronger, rather than weaker.

I happened upon another article that talked about just the opposite. I
didn't know that John McCain did the same thing & even divorced his
wife after she had been crippled by a car accident. Pretty sad way to
treat someone you vowed to cherish in sickness & in health.

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/story?id=5559242&page=1

[Pam]

I agree. I think illness or stress could work to make a relationship even
stronger, rather than weaker.

I happened upon another article that talked about just the opposite. I
didn't know that John McCain did the same thing & even divorced his
wife after she had been crippled by a car accident. Pretty sad way to
treat someone you vowed to cherish in sickness & in health.

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/story?id=5559242&page=1

I agree with you Liz about illness usually making a relationship stronger rather than weaker. My mom was the best caretaker to my dad after his stroke that you could ever imagine but of course their marriage was rock solid before that.

While we don't know the condition of the Edwards' marriage, my brother, whose marriage was not the best, became a total rock for my sister-in-law when she became ill with cancer. He said he could not imagine being anything else. He was by her side for five extremely difficult years until she finally passed. *For better or for worse* means more to some people than others.

I am scratching my head to understand why John Edwards even thinks stating that she was in remission at the time has any meaning. Her cancer is terminal, non-curable - remissions are temporary - enough said. I remember in an earlier thread I even posted that I thought it was wrong for him to even consider running for President since she would need him more than ever.

[shepgirl]

I don't think I can judge one way or another . I also canot say with certainty what I would do if faced with the same problem.It's one thing to think about and try to put yourself in that position, but quite another to really live it...just can't say for sure, too much depends on that one final decision.

[Cataholic]

I don't think I can judge one way or another . I also canot say with certainty what I would do if faced with the same problem.It's one thing to think about and try to put yourself in that position, but quite another to really live it...just can't say for sure, too much depends on that one final decision.

Shepgirl, I really agree with your sentiments. Living a life is alot different from judging a life.

As for her being 'shamed'...what did she do to be ashamed of?

[sparks19]

No SHE shouldn't be ashamed. HE should be.

I think the thing that got me the most was in one article I read that he possibly fathered a child with this woman and when asked about he said something along the lines of "That child is not mine. One of my co workers fathered that child"

So you were sleeping around with the town bicycle? Even WORSE.