Sad Rant (maybe a little long)

[Moesha]

Did she make the slamming door sound, or is that just the sound that the IM program makes when someone signs off? If it is just the program, which I have heard before, from AIM maybe, she probably didn't realize the full effect you got when she left. I'm with the others, give her a little time and space and I'm sure she'll realize that her actions were not a fitting response to you calling at an inopportune time.

[moosmom]

Moesha,

It was AIM that made the sound when someone signs off. I'll give her time. I've known her my entire life and won't let something like this kill our friendship.

[Medusa]

Donna, I had something like that happen to me recently, too. My friend also overreacted and the more I tried to make things right between us, the angrier she became, so I've decided to just let her be for now and hope that she'll come around. If your friend values your friendship as much as you do, she'll cool off and you'll be able to sort things out. You probably caught her at a bad time and seeing that you said she's had some tough times lately, she just blew a gasket. We're all busy, though, and all are deserving of respect, no matter how busy or tired or stressed we are. I agree w/you, don't grovel, just let it be for now. Least said, easiest mended.

[Freedom]

Just do not contact her at work at all for the time being. That seems to be a touchy spot for her just now.

Only make contact at her home. If she has voice mail /answer machine, maybe consider leaving her a message for her to pick up when she gets home from work -- just a quick "Hi, glad the work day is done and you are on to other things." No more apologies, don't bring this stuff up in a message. Maybe a short quick joke, something to make her smile and move on. And not more than one per week for now, either.

Just one idea, to help get past this and move on. Then when things are a bit calmer if need be the 2 of you can rediscuss. you may not hear from her until after the kids return to boarding school and she has time to redirect.

[K9karen]

Hey, I have a stressful life too. Don't we all?
When I got personal calls at work during a busy day (which was always), all I would say is "Call you back..can't talk now". Sometimes it was easier for friends to get a hold of me at work, knowing I'd HAVE to answer the phone. But I didn't rip their heads off. But that's just me.

Honestly, I would have sent the same kind of card! And if I was on the receiving end, I'd laugh my a$$ off and probably feel guilty for treating you badly.

I guess you know who your friends are. I know the kind of person you are, Donna, and you don't deserve this. Brush it off. She knows your number. Please wipe your tears and accept a {HUG} from me.

[moosmom]

Thanks Sandie. I'm going to leave her be. MAYBE she'll call me, maybe she won't, but I refuse to apologize anymore. Christ was only on the cross for a week.

[gini]

Just a thought - when you originally called about the air pump and she answered the phone - maybe she was in a situation where she would have loved to BLOW UP at the clients/people in her office. But being in a work situation she couldn't - so YOU got it!

I would just back off and let her be for a while - sounds like she has way too much on her plate and the air pump question just blew her off course.