Still worried about Luna's and Lily's safety! (update #33)

[Kirsten]

The police was here yesterday, and an ambulance took her to the hospital, but obviously her actions and verbal threats were not enough to justify a compulsory hospitalization, because at it seems, they will release her the next days. I'm devastated since I've heard that. She made a threat to "destroy us all".

Ever since she's back in Germany, I'm locking myself in my apartment most of the time. All I want is to have my life back!!!

Kirsten

[Catty1]

Can her husband not commit her? Geesh! You, as a neighbour who lives there, need to call the cops and tell them you are afraid and WHY. They need to hear from others besides the family and that sick woman. They also need to know that you are on medical leave (or whatever that is), and that this woman poses a danger to your health and well-being. You call the police when YOU are in danger.

I don't know WHY the hospital would listen to her scream threats and decide to release her after a few days. Unless they've taught her husband how to cram medication down her throat.

Start looking for a home and call the police.

[jennielynn1970]

Wow.. she threatens to destroy everyone, and they release her?! What the heck good is that to anyone involved?? Will they only do something drastic when she does something drastic (as in too late)?! I'd be really upset.

I hope that they can do something to hospitalize her for long term. You shouldn't have to uproot yourself and your girls because of one person. That's just not fair to anyone.

Is there any way of getting a restraining order against her, so that she can't be within so many thousand feet, in other words, she would have to move? Or would that just make her go off worse??

Geez.

I hope that something can be done that won't have to be drastic or harmful to anyone, including the woman who is dealing with her own inner demons, it seems.

Big hugs to you, Kirsten, and your girls. You really shouldn't have to be dealing with this right after you've gotten home.

[lizbud]

I'm sorry to hear this. Nobody should have to live with this situation.
Does this person have family that can be notified of her bizzare behavior?

If no one can, or will, do something to help, I would keep calling the police
whenever she makes a threat of any kind. ((hugs))

[Kirsten]

Will they only do something drastic when she does something drastic (as in too late)?!

Seems so! I'm absolutely devastated to learn that the authorities don't help the way they should. A week ago, when I spoke to my doctor about this situation and my fears re. my neighbor, (she's also her doctor, so she knows what's going on) she calmed me down by saying my neighbor would be admitted to an institution for many months as soon as she enters German ground, and I trusted in that. Now things went wrong and it did not happen that way, and my doctor, who could interfere, is on vacation. Talk about bad timing!

But what can I do except for calling the police as soon as she touches me, my cats or my property? Filing for a restraining order wouldn't make much sense as she lives in the same house with me!

And yes, her husband tried to commit her, he even had another talk to the doctors at the clinic last night, but so far, I do not know what they decided. But I think I heard her husband saying she'll come home tonight (but I'm not sure if I heard that right).

Kirsten

[chocolatepuppy]

I hope this woman will be committed soon. I will keep you and your kittys in my prayers.

[moosmom]

Kirsten,

This woman sounds like a real loonie toon. I pray for your safety and Luna and Lily's as well. No one should have to leave in fear like that. Keep calling the police and filing report. Maybe in the meantime they'll get the hint and finally get this woman the help she needs.

((((((((HUGS)))))))))to you, Luna and Lily

Donna

[jennielynn1970]

Well, I meant with the restraining order, if they say she has to stay so many thousand or hundred feet away, then she'd have to move somewhere so that you would be safe, and she'd have to honor the boundaries of the restraining order.

I hope that she will be committed shortly and that you will be able to live in peace.

[RockyRoad]

Oh gosh, how frightening that must be for you!! I`m sorry you have to go through that. This woman sounds like she definitely needs to be committed. Especially when she is threatening you like that. It`s terrible for you to have to think about rehoming your cats and moving altogether because nothing seems to be getting done about this woman. Prayers are on the way that you, Luna and Lily will stay safe, and that somehow this situation can be resolved asap. {{hugs}}

[Kirsten]

Thanks! I haven't heard anything today, so I think she's still at the clinic.

Not sure about a restraining order in this case. After all, she lives here with her family, and to make her stay away from this house would mean she has to stay away from them, so I'm not sure if that would work...

I guess all I can do is hoping that they will keep her in the clinic until she's back to normal, or I really need to find a new place for me and my girls to live...

Kirsten

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

I really need to find a new place for me and my girls to live...

Kirsten

I am so sorry, but I think you don't have much choice..............

[Catty1]

Kirsten - why not start looking for a place now?

You don't have to actually move - just research what is available. You might find something that is wonderful, and maybe doesn't have all those stairs to climb, which I know is hard for you when you are feeling unwell.

Just look at the ads and see. Maybe some karma is causing this trouble to guide you to a new and perfect place.

{{{{hugs}}}}

[Kirsten]

Already started looking, but so far, I did not find anything I could affort. Besides, I don't have the money for a move, so that would be the last option.

Kirsten

[Catty1]

Just tell him you are looking - that's all. He'll have to think of how he will rent out your room with such an ill woman as a tenant....

If you do find a place (you only need one, and it's out there somewhere!) ask your landlord about his not keeping your security deposit, if you had to pay one. That way you will have a little $. Maybe he knows another landlord that would be reasonable?

I am sure your landlord is not happy about the situation either, as it places his business in danger.

{{{hugs}}}

[Kirsten]

My landlords are an elderly couple of 75 - 80 years, and they've been on vacation till last Friday and missed the entire drama. I don't know if they are informed meanwhile. For many years they have been friends to my neighbor and her family.

I think before I decide to do anything, I should wait and see what happens. After all, there's a chance that my neighbor decides to live somewhere else (at least this is what she said in her current state). Guess all I can do is wait. But when she's really returning and is still so sick, there's no doubt that I have to go, no matter what.

Kirsten