Jen, Am I understanding you correctly, that tuxes are a little standoffish (sp)? Mine is just over a year, actually 13 months, and although she can be the most loving cat (cuddle and purr herself to sleep on your head) there are times when we have to remind her she is part of the family, go get her and bring her into the room with us.

Although I have always loved cats, I am just getting to understand that some characteristics (like my tort's personality) are not unusual to them but part of the breed.