I need honest opinions

**gini** · 03-17-2008, 07:15 PM

I think he should have turned around and gone back home to get his wallet.

If he wasn't embarrassed because he forgot it - I don't get such a good feeling about him either.

Also, he could have said "look, this is embarrassing for me - so can we set up another date and I will remember my wallet next time?"

I don't think you can be too careful -

**Medusa** · 03-17-2008, 07:19 PM

Originally Posted by gini

I think he should have turned around and gone back home to get his wallet.

If he wasn't embarrassed because he forgot it - I don't get such a good feeling about him either.

Also, he could have said "look, this is embarrassing for me - so can we set up another date and I will remember my wallet next time?"

I don't think you can be too careful -

Well, he lives 40 minutes away from the restaurant, so if he went home to get his wallet, that would've been a long time waiting. But I agree w/your statement that he didn't seem embarrassed about it; he just kept talking as though I was going to shrug it off and pay for dinner.

**sasvermont** · 03-17-2008, 07:35 PM

I think he should have excused himself, rescheduled and made good on his original offer, to share dinner expense. This "I forgot my wallet crap" only goes so far....and not far with me. First impressions are important and he didn't make a good impression on me, at all! In my opinion, you did the right thing.....and went beyond what I would have done. Run honey, run. He sounds like a creep, at best.

**kuhio98** · 03-17-2008, 07:49 PM

My ole friend (Ron) and I still laugh about the time he wanted to impress me and made reservations at a very expensive restaurant. Yep, he forgot his wallet. He was mortified. I paid the bill. Ribbed him unmercifully. He sent me flowers the next day to apologize again.

Did he contact you again to apologize?

I think you were too hard on the boy. We all make mistakes. There is a difference between a mistake and a pattern.

**Medusa** · 03-17-2008, 08:26 PM

Originally Posted by kuhio98

Did he contact you again to apologize?

I think you were too hard on the boy. We all make mistakes. There is a difference between a mistake and a pattern.

No, he hasn't contacted me to apologize. If this had happened w/a guy that I had been dating for some time, I could easily forgive and pay for the dinner. But this was our first meeting. And he's not a boy. The man is 66 years old; old enough to know to bring his wallet for a date.

**Pam** · 03-17-2008, 08:46 PM

I would have done exactly the same thing. Hey, when you are going on a date with someone there are only a few things you need to remember and one of them is your wallet! Even if he wasn't looking for a free meal, this guy sounds a little irresponsible or maybe needs some memory vitamins. Maybe he is even older than he says and needs some ginkgo biloba.

**Medusa** · 03-17-2008, 09:24 PM

Originally Posted by Pam

Maybe he is even older than he says and needs some ginkgo biloba.

That's too funny cuz that's exactly what I was thinking. Another reason why I've always dated younger men.

**carole** · 03-19-2008, 03:57 PM

IMO you did the right thing, you showed him you are no push-over, good on you and yes you cannot be too careful these days,yes he could be genuine,but honestly i don't think he was.

**Rachel** · 03-19-2008, 05:11 PM

Actually, maybe this little episode was a good thing as it quickly brought to your attention what kind of person he is. What a jerk for not emailing you immediately (and apologizing) when he got home!

**Catlady711** · 03-17-2008, 08:49 PM

You can't be too careful with people you meet online, or anywhere else for that matter nowadays.

I think I'd have taken into account his attitude not only when he said he 'forgot' his wallet, but also his reaction when you said to reschedule and when you left. Then wait to see if he email you FIRST and what kinda explanation/tone he has on the whole event.

If he brushes it off, I'd brush him off.
If he has too complicated of an explanation I'd steer clear.
If he never responds you already have your answer.
If he is sincerely appologetic without excuses and prompt in emailing, maybe, then maybe, give him another chance, if you truely want to.

Just my suggestion, but always pay heed to your instincts, sometimes those pick up on things you just can't put a finger on and are sometimes very correct.

Good luck

**Medusa** · 03-17-2008, 09:26 PM

Originally Posted by Catlady711

You can't be too careful with people you meet online, or anywhere else for that matter nowadays.

I think I'd have taken into account his attitude not only when he said he 'forgot' his wallet, but also his reaction when you said to reschedule and when you left. Then wait to see if he email you FIRST and what kinda explanation/tone he has on the whole event.

If he brushes it off, I'd brush him off.
If he has too complicated of an explanation I'd steer clear.
If he never responds you already have your answer.
If he is sincerely appologetic without excuses and prompt in emailing, maybe, then maybe, give him another chance, if you truely want to.

Just my suggestion, but always pay heed to your instincts, sometimes those pick up on things you just can't put a finger on and are sometimes very correct.

Good luck

He's had plenty of opportunity to email me by now and he hasn't, so I think he realizes that I'm onto him. I think I'm going to trust my instincts and, even if he should email me later, I'll tell him that I'm not interested.

**Laura's Babies** · 03-17-2008, 09:40 PM

They always say toi go with your gut feeling.

I'm sorry but the last thing I do BEFORE I leave the house is make sure I have my purse and I wonder where his drivers liscense was? He left home with NO ID? Yea, right!

**RICHARD** · 03-18-2008, 03:00 AM

Originally Posted by gini

I think he should have turned around and gone back home to get his wallet.

LOL, but of course!

I carry my wallet in my front pocket...to impress the women!

From a guy....

I always prepare for the worst. I even carry clean underwear in my car. In case I get into an accident.

If he showed up without a wallet, a card or a knick knack to give you, he sucks, Tell him that PT said so.

**jackie** · 03-18-2008, 04:42 AM

That made me LOL!

I think you made the right choice, and if you have any doubts about you reaction DON'T. He should have gotten in contact with you (even if he decided he isn't interested).

Following your gut instinct usually works!

**Medusa** · 03-18-2008, 06:36 AM

I think my impression was right, not necessarily that he wanted a free meal but that he was not honest and was trying to see if I was an easy mark and it appears that the majority of you agree w/me about trusting my instincts. We're human and sometimes we do stupid things, such as leaving the house w/out our wallet. I was so late for work one day that I left w/out my entire purse. I still can't believe to this day that I did that. I guess it was his demeanor and body language that spoke louder than his words. He had a grin on his face, not one of embarrassment but one of "Ha ha, gotcha! Now what are ya gonna do?". Plus his words "Do you have any money?" made me cringe. He should've said as someone here suggested "I'm so embarrassed; I forgot my wallet. Can we reschedule for another time so that you don't think I'm trying to pull a fast one?" Plus he hasn't emailed me since then, so he knows I'm on to him. I got to thinking about the fact that I didn't give him my phone number but he does have my website address and my phone number is on there, so he could've called if he really wanted to. He told me early on that he had Googled me. And I also thought to myself "So he's driving w/out a license, too, hmmm..." All these things occurred to me in an instant but I didn't say anything. Maybe he got stopped on the way home, since it was St. Patty's Day and cops were everywhere. I doubt that a cop would accept "My dog ate my wallet".