Gayle i do not know all the circumstances or know you very well either, but from what you have posted now and before ,this is an ongoing thing, the abuse from your husband,honestly i don't think he is going to change, but i could be wrong, i hope so, i hope you can find the courage and strength to leave ,because no-one deserves to be treated this way,drink is often the excuse, and IMO it just does not wear with me, i too have lived with an alcoholic, he was not physically abusive,but mentally, i had a young child with him, and i have never regretted my decision to leave him,i am now with a man who is nothing like him,you too can have such a life without all this pain and suffering.

I wish you all the best in whatever you decide,i really hate to see you going through all of this. HUGS.