I'm echoing Kim's statement above. There is no way to learn in life without the mistakes we ALL make. We may not all make the same ones, but we ALL make mistakes. Its more than obvious that you've learned from this and you got away at an excellent time, sweetie. ((((hugs))))

If it were me, I'd suggest possibly going to visit with a therapist to be sure you don't have post traumatic stress syndrome. You may find this to be when you get into your next relationship.

Lots of (((((hugs))))) and prayers that you WONT have to go to trial and that this is all behind you.

Hugs,
Kelly

P.S. You are NOT stupid, btw. People like this guy know EXACTLY how to lure women in. It is his way, his expertise. You were in NO WAY STUPID, ok sweetie? Please know and believe that. People like this guy are very sick, you were correct in calling him a psychopath...or a sociopath. Be glad its behind you and don't be down on yourself. You made the BEST decision and you got away from something potentially very harmful. You trusted your instincts...