I've been hiding... Here's my story.

[Lilith Cherry]

I am sorry this happened to you but very happy to see how you dealt with it when you found out. You are a warm loving person and will one day find someone just as nice as you to team up with.. Be happy you escaped from what could have been a nasty situation! Hugs to you!

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

Thank you for the support, everyone. I feel wonderful today, I'm very happy.

I talked to his probation officer, Sara the other day. She said that he is admitting the false name charges and they have the hearing set for March 20th. Which is fine, except... I'm leaving for Jamaica on March 21st. Sara said these exact words: "I'm done torturing you. I'm so sorry you have to be involved in this anymore. I have a statement from you, that should be all I need. I'm going to try my hardest to make it so you DON'T have to come to the hearing. I want this to be over for you."

I could have told her I loved her right then, lol.

I DO NOT want to see him again. I'm worried that seeing him will either scare the daylights out of me (because of what I know now), or make any feelings I have buried deep inside of me, resurface. I DON'T want to see him or hear from him, ever again.

Wish me luck on being excluded from the trial, lol. =]

[Karen]

I'd send her a nice Thank-you note, and repeat your hopes not to have to attend the hearing. Hopefully a written statement will be enough, ask her if there's something you can sign with witnesses or something.

[pitc9]

I hope what Sara said it true and you don't have to go to court and see him again.
I have to Echo what Staci said and tell you that I'm proud of you for getting away from him and staying away from him!!
{{{HUGS}}}

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

Oh I know. The first couple weeks after he went to jail I was so upset... I was stuck in this mindset that he was still 27 and we could get over this... He'd get out of jail and we'd get over it.

My parents, my friends, you guys... all have helped me see that I got myself out of what could have been an AWFUL situation. I am so over this. SO over it! I just want to move on and be happy. I'm sorry that I messed up his life, but honestly, he had it coming. Like you've all said, he needs to be put away. I've come to the realization that yeah, he was probably trying to get to me. Maybe there wasn't really any real feelings involved. It could have ended so terribly. If my parents hadn't intervened...

[ramanth]

*HUGS* I'm so happy to hear you're feeling better. I truely hope you won't have to go to trial. Lots of love sent!

[tikeyas_mom]

OMG this is so horrible!! I feel so badly for you hun!! Dont worry about anyone judging you! Hes the one who will meet his maker for the lies he has told you, and probably others.. I really hope you dont hold this grudge on yourself for trusting this man..Everyone makes mistakes, and I am so happy that you got out fo the situation before it got worse.. DONT BLAME YOURSELF!! People lie, and some men are VERY good at it, just to manipulate girls to get what they want.. Sounds like this guy has some serious issues. and hes messed in the head.. Just be happy it all came to the serface now instead of later..
I have been minipulated by a guy before too. he also lied about his age telling me he was 26 and actually being 33!! He really messed my head up, but I am so happy I seen the mistake it was to be with him, because if I didnt get out I am sure I would be really unhappy right now..

Trust yourself, and always trust your instincts.. and Dont ever look down on your self.. Noone is psychic, and you are only human..
hope you feel better soon..
We love you!!!


*******huggsssss********

[kitten645]

I'm glad you were saved from some very nasty possible scenarios involving this looser. You must think of this all it the proper frame of mind. YOU didn't ruin his life. He did that all on his own. YOU shouldn't be questioned for going out with a 27 year old...HE should be questioning why he needs to be with someone clearly out of appropriate age range. Even if he WAS 27, most 27 year old men don't date teenagers. Clearly he's looking for someone young that he can control. Onyl YOU can give him that control. It belongs to you!
I think you explained everything fine in your first post. Stay safe and don't let him take away the loving person you are.
Claudia

[HorseDreamer101]

omg Ilovemyabbygirl i feel so bad for you!!
you should not be ashamed of yourself
that man lied to you and its not your fault.
i hope you feel better and if you need someone to
listen to you, im all ears

[buttercup132]

Why do you always need to be so damn judgmental?

I'm not.
I didn't know she had known him for a year and when you see a teenager (I don't know her exact age) dating a 27yr old it's a bit shocking.

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

It said it all in my first post. I had known him a year before the word "love" got tossed in. No, my age wasn't mentioned. I am 19. I'll be 20 in October. (Sccaarrrryyy.)

No hard feelings. Just make sure you know the whole story before you start accusing me of things.

[jennielynn1970]

I'm not.
I didn't know she had known him for a year and when you see a teenager (I don't know her exact age) dating a 27yr old it's a bit shocking.

You were brusque in your statements. But maybe that's how you phrase your words since they do come out like this many times. Trying to see a positive there, instead of saying it was purposefully mean. Maybe you just need to try to phrase things a little more delicately, diplomatically, or with some tact?

As for the other comment about a teen dating an older person....
A teen dating a 27 year old is not any more shocking in this day and age, especially now in the cities where you see teen girls dressed up like they're 25, clothes and makeup and all that (and who buys it for them???). Many times the guys have no clue the girls are so young. No one tells their real ages any longer. Younger girls say they're older, older guys say they're younger cause they like the sweet young things at Junior and Senior High. It's all a game. Look at all the shows on TV now. I mean, look at Gossip Girl, or back to Buffy or the 90210 days. Those girls were NOT actiing like teenagers. The roles that girls see set for them these days on TV and movies have them believing that at 14 years old they are adult and can take care of themselves and make all their own decision.

I'm glad that this girl was able to see that the guy was a bag of pond scum, and a manipulator and got the heck away from him. Those types prey on girls like that, girls who don't think enough of them selves.

You've got to value yourself, otherwise, others will think nothing of devaluing you in any way they can. Be strong and believe in yourself. You have to.

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

Thanks everyone. I think, in a way, this has opened my eyes a little. I'm seeing how bad my trust issues are/were. Since this has all happened, I've been hanging out at the Union in my school (where everyone hangs out, tv, pool table, tons of great food!), talking to people, making new friends and just trying to get myself out there. I'm usually a very quiet person, but I'm learning to open up.

It can only get betterrrr...