An update on my trials and tribulations

[NoahsMommy]

Sweet SAS,

I'm sp sorry I didn't see this thread until this afternoon. I wish I'd seen it and had been able to offer my support sooner. You've been such an amazing friend to me, I'd so love to return the favor.

I'm sorry about all the emotions you're going through with your mom. Even if your mom was sweeter than sweet, it would still be so hard. You know its the best place for her, but having to move anyone is hard, moving someone to a care home is harder. It sounds so wonderful though! She'll love the resident kitty...they'll find it missing and end up finding your mom and kitty in bed together cuddling or sitting out in the sun together. Just watch... And getting to have all the fun of dogs, but not the hard part like picking up after them, maintence and financial responsibilities - sounds like the perfect dawg to me!! And she'll get to visit with TWO of them. Wait, this place, its peaceful and quiet and in Vermont? Hmmmm.....they have another place left you say? Maybe they'll take ME! Then you can come visit me and your mom!

All joking aside, it DOES sound like a really nice place. The good thing about the short-term memory loss is that she wont remember the shock for very long. I'll be praying it all goes smoothly...I'm sure it will. We'll have all our prayers and good thoughts coming your way, it just has to go well. I'm sure that when its all overwith, you'll feel as though a weight has been lifted. This is a lot for one person to have to organize and deal with.

If there is anything I can do, please let me know.

I wish you lots of luck in finding your next job...I think its great that you've realized what you are doing isn't what you need or want to be doing - and you have the courage to change that. I just know the next place you work will be so happy to have you, and they'll be LUCKY!

So, a mini-vacation, huh? Anywhere tropical?? Somewhere local?? I can't wait to hear...you so deserve it, SAS.

Hugs,
Kelly & Kitties xoxoxoxo

[Pam]

One situation almost rectified and one in progress. Sallyanne I know you will come through this asking yourself why you didn't do it sooner.

Peace to you my friend and thank you for the update. I hope your mini vacation will help to recharge your batteries. Thanks for letting us know how you are doing.

[Rachel]

This obviously is the first piece that is falling into place. The others are due to follow in an orderly fashion. Thanks for keeping us up on the situation. We really do care.

[Catty1]

*hugs*

You are taking care of yourself...I have a feeling things will fall together wonderfully for you and your mom too.

[sasvermont]

Hi kids,

I took my Mom to the assisted living place just yesterday. It all ran smoothly and I was asked not to return for a week, to give her time to settle in. I feel so guility, just leaving her, but there is a plus side to having such freedom to come and go now.

My employers have hired someone to replace me. I cannot wait to give up the crown. I hope they give me a break and have me over lap only two the first two weeks of February and pay me to leave for the last two. I think they want to see this over with too. It isn't good for office morale to keep me (the new smiling me) around the place. Things are falling apart before me, job wise. They are at each other's throats. One partner called two nights ago (before they officially hired the new person) and said that one of the attorneys promised to behave himself and increase his medication, if I would stay. When asked the following day about why I didn't return the message, I said that it was "funny, and made me laugh" and I didn't need to return the call. My mind was made up!".....

I have been lucky and rented my Mom's apartment 4.1.08! I have sold and given away lots of the furniture....and have about a day's worth of work to clean out the small items and organize what is left, for sorting out, this spring when it is warmer out.

So things are running on schedule. Gosh. I feel sooooo much better. I still have to land a job, but having lots of these things just about behind me, I feel as though I have lost tons of weight! Weight off the shoulders!

Here's to progress!

Thanks for listening.

Sas and her campers

[Medusa]

Progress is right. You're taking care of your mom and yourself and you're "taking care of business", so to speak, at the same time. You owe yourself a big "Whew!" when it's all finished. You're doing a great job.

[krazyaboutkatz]

SAS, I'm so glad to hear that things are going well for you. I'm sure that you won't have any problems finding a new job but hopefully it'll be one that you enjoy. Good luck.

[Logan]

Sallyanne, I never knew what your specific job was, but I sure hope they paid you alot for putting up with that mess. Geez.

Best of luck to you. You are going to be just fine and your mom is too. I'm sending you my best wishes.

Logan

[NoahsMommy]

To the Campers at Camp Vermont,

Please go give your mommy a kiss and some nose rubbies at least 5 times a day. While the worst is behind, she still needs your love and reassurance - and she can get it from you, but also through her PT Family through your cute little bodies, OK??

Thank you, sweet fuzzies.

Love, Kelly & Kits

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Dearest SallyAnne,

Things are really shaping up for you and I'm so glad! (((((((((SAS))))))))) I'm sure your mom is going to love her new place. The first time you go for a visit, she's going to be excited about her own new digs and be happy to get to show you, her daughter and favorite visitor. Make sure and fill us in on her furry co-resident, the live-in cat.

I'm so happy that the worst is behind you. I know you don't want to stay, but its nice to be and feel wanted, right? The next hurdle wont be a hurdle at all, you're going to find the best job, and it'll be perfect for you.

Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers...

Hugs & Love,
Kelly and the furballs

[gini]

You are so......."on the right track"............I couldn't be happier for you.

[Karen]

Gosh the next week will be so hard, not just popping over to "check in" - I don;t know that I could have waited that long when we moved Aunt Bertha into the nursing home, but as we have noted, her memory problems were different than your mom's are. But I bet your mom will settle right in. My tip for visiting loved ones in a nursing home-type place: bring fresh flowers. Staff are more likely to visit the room to enjoy them with her, and she'll love the company!

[Catty1]

{{{{hugs}}}} Glad to hear you are feeling better! I am sure you will need to decompress for a while.

Get a Greyhound North America pass and take off for a month!

[Rachel]

Progress is right! There still will be hurdles but none that will impede your determination. The good life lies ahead somewhere and by golly, girl, you are going to find it. That call from the lawyer imploring you to stay was priceless. I truly would have been disappointed had that one not come in. However, I agree, that it is probably much too late to teach these old dogs new tricks - like treating people with decency and respect.

Now the next phase will be seeing if the new person is able to tolerate the craziness long enough for you to get out the door. I have absolutely no worries that you will find a great job with people who will appreciate your skills and dedication. Cheers and celebrate taking control.

Much love to your mom. That one is still going to be a difficult journey, but the main thing is that she is safe and well cared for. You've done good.

[Pam]

My employers have hired someone to replace me. I cannot wait to give up the crown.

I love the line about giving up the crown. Oh if the new person only had a clue as to what is in store for her....

I have been lucky and rented my Mom's apartment 4.1.08! I have sold and given away lots of the furniture....and have about a day's worth of work to clean out the small items and organize what is left, for sorting out, this spring when it is warmer

You are doing a super job Sallyanne. Everything you are doing has been very well thought out and methodical. I, too, have gone through the breaking down of my mom's apartment and you are wise to not rush through. You have the time, and you don't want to discard something and then wish you hadn't. I had one month to empty out Mom's apartment and it was hard, both physically and emotionally. Thank you again for keeping us updated. It is all good and will be even better once you find the perfect job and..... it is out there!

[Freedom]

I am so pleased. You thought this through, got ideas, made a plan, followed through and even though it has been a long haul full of emotions, you are definitely seeing "the light at the end of the tunnel." Bless you for all the work you have done for your Mom. now you will a bit more time to focus on you; and the fur kids!