I feel Like a Heel!!

[RedHedd]

Call her back and tell her how you feel. I know she'll appreciate it.

[cassiesmom]

I like all these ideas... Hugs and prayers!

[Medusa]

Call her back and tell her how you feel. I know she'll appreciate it.

My thoughts exactly. My mom lived 3 hours away and, after my dad's passing, I cried buckets thinking of her being alone for the first time, so I worked things out among my sisters and me to have one of us there for a while. If that isn't an option for you, give your mom a call. She needs to know that she isn't alone and even though I'm sure she realizes that on an intellectual level, the sound of your voice and those of her grandkids will be a healing balm to her broken heart. It will be just what she needs until she sees you all again soon.

[critter crazy]

Thanks all. I did call her, I talk on the phone with my mom 2-3 times a day. She actually did just fine last night. She decided sitting at home was not good, so she went shopping! he he he!! Like I told her, shopping will fix anything! Shopping is a new experiance for my mom, as Dad wouldnt let her do such Frivolous things(long story One of the many reasons my step-dad and I didnt get along) So she actually had a good time. We talked on the phone for quite some time today as well, and she is looking forward to comming up next weekend. So all is good. I guess I just worry too much.

It was funny tho, I called her this morning, and she wasnt home, so the Answering machine picked up, and it was my Step-dads message! It was creepy, cause the way he set it up, it seemed like he had answered the phone, you know, like it wasnt the machine at all! Just a tad bit freaky!! I told mom, and she had forgotten all about it, and is having my Brother chane it today.

[lizbud]

Thanks all. I did call her, I talk on the phone with my mom 2-3 times a day. She actually did just fine last night. She decided sitting at home was not good, so she went shopping! he he he!! Like I told her, shopping will fix anything! Shopping is a new experiance for my mom, as Dad wouldnt let her do such Frivolous things(long story One of the many reasons my step-dad and I didnt get along) So she actually had a good time. We talked on the phone for quite some time today as well, and she is looking forward to comming up next weekend. So all is good. I guess I just worry too much.

It was funny tho, I called her this morning, and she wasnt home, so the Answering machine picked up, and it was my Step-dads message! It was creepy, cause the way he set it up, it seemed like he had answered the phone, you know, like it wasnt the machine at all! Just a tad bit freaky!! I told mom, and she had forgotten all about it, and is having my Brother chane it today.

I'm glad everything worked out so well with your Mom.

[Rachel]

It was funny tho, I called her this morning, and she wasnt home, so the Answering machine picked up, and it was my Step-dads message! It was creepy, cause the way he set it up, it seemed like he had answered the phone, you know, like it wasnt the machine at all! Just a tad bit freaky!! I told mom, and she had forgotten all about it, and is having my Brother chane it today.

It does seem as if your mother is doing quite well. Good for her and good for you staying in touch like you are. That would mean a lot to me.

My sister passed away last August. My brother-in-law still has his answering message say that she nor he can come to the phone right now. I wonder if I should say anything to him about it? He still hasn't sorted out any of her clothing either, but that I can understand one would do when they feel ready. The answering machine message is something that is kind of *out there*.

[critter crazy]

It does seem as if your mother is doing quite well. Good for her and good for you staying in touch like you are. That would mean a lot to me.

My sister passed away last August. My brother-in-law still has his answering message say that she nor he can come to the phone right now. I wonder if I should say anything to him about it? He still hasn't sorted out any of her clothing either, but that I can understand one would do when they feel ready. The answering machine message is something that is kind of *out there*.

awww....well some people justneed more time. but it could be like y mom, and just didnt realize it was still like that?? Or maybe, it is the only way he can still hear her voice??

Mom has already gone through all of dads things, all his clothes were sent to the Salvation Army, his Walkers, canes, and such was donated to the Nursing home. She even went through her Pantry(mom dosent Cook) and Donated most of the food to the local Food Bank.

I guess in all reality mom is handling things pretty well. The only thing, she dosent handle well is being alone, but that is just natural I guess.