Desperate Help Needed - Noah

[ChrisH]

I NEED to plan for IF that happens (which I have in the form of this insurance check and the savings I'll start with it) and then REMOVE the worry because that alone WILL make me sick. When she already knows my fears combined with the heart wrenching possibility that I may never speak to my parents again...it just hit me right where I worry. It added to an already overflowing sense of dread, terror. This is my LIFE. I AM terrified my life will repeat itself, but I cannot dwell on that.

Kelly, you have done, or will do, as much as you can to safeguard the future, and that is all you can do,
because that is all that it is, a time to come. You cannot know exactly what will happen so ...

Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year.
He is rich who owns the day, and no one owns the day who allows it to be invaded with fret and anxiety.
Finish every day and be done with it.
You have done what you could.
Some blunders and absurdities, no doubt, crept in.
Forget them as soon as you can, tomorrow is a new day;
begin it well and serenely, with too high a spirit to be cumbered with your old nonsense.
This new day is too dear, with its hopes and invitations,
to waste a moment on the yesterdays...
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Be bold--and mighty forces will come to your aid.
- Basil King (1859-1928) Cleric and writer

Good luck sweetie, you will be in my prayers.

[sasvermont]

Gosh, I just know you will thrive on your own Kelly. As I said in a previous post, take the high road. Don't assume anything, including knowing what will happen and how your folks will respond, and why! I know that it is tempting to try to predict, but it is also dangerous. Of course it is best to have plan a, b, c etc. ready for application, but to spend too much time wondering how someone else will react, well, it is a waste of your time. You deserve a break my dear, and you should concentrate on you and your needs and not wondering about what is in someone else's head.

Will you fail at this attempt to live on your own? Probably not. Anyone of us could come up short in our living situations. I bet I moved home three or four times as a young adult. It is why they call it home. It is a safe place to be. Unfortunately your Mom has taken home to an entirely different place. Sounds more like prison to me. She sounds like the warden and not Mom.

As far as your health is concerned, well, again, anyone of us could run in to a problem. I know I have and made arrangements to work with the problem until it was cured. You can always move here to Vermont. Don't forget that.

I wouldn't write your Mom off quite yet. She may surprise you and deal with this in an adult like way. I don't blame you for wanting out. I wonder why she is so mean to you? You need to distance yourself from her, and this seems to be the way.

So Kelly dear, chin up. You can do this. Keep your eyes open and your spirits up. You have so many cheer leaders here.

Love,
Sas and her campers

[Catty1]

Sign for your grandma, God bless her : "My mind's made up - don't confuse me with the facts."

[Pawsitive Thinking]

You are so doing the right thing!! It even comes across in your posts how much better you feel about life

Your grandma is just concerned for you so you did well in letting her say her piece but don't let her put you off your future!!!

As for your parents, at the end of the day it will be up to them to keep the lines of communication open between them and you. You are hoping to have contact with them but if they choose not to then it is their problem and their loss!

Don't dwell on the past - thats over and done with and it can't be changed or repeated. Things are on the up for you!!!! and we are all here for you to help out in any way we can - you will never be alone

[NoahsMommy]

Update: Its going to be reallllllyyyy quick and I can't address your recent posts until I have some privacy online. But I wanted to update you!

#1...Kristin and I met and I gave her the money so that we're official! We've decided to make up our own lease agreement and have already approved our first draft. (We both wrote it, I typed it and emailed it to her. Waiting for changes/additions. When we're done, we'll get it notorized.)

#2...I spoke with my brother's girlfriend, Krista and she was SOOOOOOOO supportive! She said they'll help me move WHENEVER and we can use her dad's truck!!! That'll save me a ton of money (that would have had to come from my ins. check)! ALSO, she said they'll take my parents away for lunch or even the day on 2/2 (moving day for me and the cats). Kristin is fine with me bringing my stuff AND would LOVE it if I brought her a kitty or two to keep her company until I got there!!! (She actually asked me if I could!!! YAY!!)

#3...I overheard my mom mention that next Saturday (the 26th??) there is some grand opening at a Trilogy place they want to go to. God is smiling down upon me/us - this thing they're going to is like, 4 hours away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!! They may even "make a weekend out of it"! That would give me a ton of time to get my boxes, my room and anything else packed!!! WOOHOO!!!!

Isn't this all so wonderful??? I'm so happy. Thank you my PT Family - my Angels. Thank you, God!!!!

Love, Kelly & Kitties



P.S. Oh! I changed my Spousal Support address to CiCi's for my next check (February). Its all so exciting!!!

[Taz_Zoee]

Kelly, this is wonderful news!! I am so excited for you!!

[shais_mom]

Update: Its going to be reallllllyyyy quick and I can't address your recent posts until I have some privacy online. But I wanted to update you!

#1...Kristin and I met and I gave her the money so that we're official! We've decided to make up our own lease agreement and have already approved our first draft. (We both wrote it, I typed it and emailed it to her. Waiting for changes/additions. When we're done, we'll get it notorized.)

#2...I spoke with my brother's girlfriend, Krista and she was SOOOOOOOO supportive! She said they'll help me move WHENEVER and we can use her dad's truck!!! That'll save me a ton of money (that would have had to come from my ins. check)! ALSO, she said they'll take my parents away for lunch or even the day on 2/2 (moving day for me and the cats). Kristin is fine with me bringing my stuff AND would LOVE it if I brought her a kitty or two to keep her company until I got there!!! (She actually asked me if I could!!! YAY!!)

#3...I overheard my mom mention that next Saturday (the 26th??) there is some grand opening at a Trilogy place they want to go to. God is smiling down upon me/us - this thing they're going to is like, 4 hours away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!! They may even "make a weekend out of it"! That would give me a ton of time to get my boxes, my room and anything else packed!!! WOOHOO!!!!

Isn't this all so wonderful??? I'm so happy. Thank you my PT Family - my Angels. Thank you, God!!!!

Love, Kelly & Kitties



P.S. Oh! I changed my Spousal Support address to CiCi's for my next check (February). Its all so exciting!!!

wooohoo!!!

[AmberLee]

Wonderful news. Congrats, dear.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Kelly, thanks for the wonderful update. Since it sounds like your parents may be gone for the weekend of the the 26th, then maybe after you pack some boxes you could start taking some of your things over to your new place.(that is if Kirstin doesn't mind) and hopefully your mom wouldn't notice that some things were missing. I know that you're doing the right thing and that you'll feel much better after your move. Good luck.