Help me understand...

**catnapper** · 10-18-2007, 07:17 PM

Same thing with my brother. He gave me the biggest guilt trip over Pouncer's surgery. I told him I'd feel like a murderer if I denied him vet care. He told me I was denying my family essentials and that I already saved his life once by rescuing him. I just realized there is a HUGE difference in what is important to both of us. He gets season tickets to major league baseball, theater tickets for Thomas the Tank for his 2 year old, takes long vacations, etc. He chooses to spend his money on those things. He considers them important. I consider them frivolous (especially the season tickets when the game is on his huge plasma TV).

I know my funds are tight. You're funds are equally tight, yet we both realize the promise we made to ourselves and pets is a serious one that requires a lifelong commitment.

PS: I got a bonus from work yesterday and ran most of it over to the vet this afternoon. My coworker bought a $120 purse with her bonus.... we all spend money in our own way and its nobody's business to comment on what is important.

**carole** · 10-18-2007, 09:03 PM

Aww Donna i am sorry your'e brother has hurt you like this, it was a thoughtless comment, and not needed really, sadly a lot of people feel like he does, but being a animal lover himself, i fail to see why he had to say it at all , and even thought that way, try not to let it get you down, you know you did the right thing and that is all that really matters.,I say stuff him.

(oops i hope that does not mean anything else in US of A, it means to heck with him here.

**robinh** · 10-18-2007, 09:09 PM

So many of my friends look at me like I've lost my mind when they hear what I've paid to keep Max healthy. I have come to just ignore their insensitive remarks. Max is our baby, OK, he's our old baby. Dick and I refer to him as the million dollar dog cause it sure seems like we've spent that much and we'll continue to do that as long as he has a sparkle in his eye and a skip in his step. Even if I have to skimp on something else.

Everyone here knows you are doing a great job caring for your baby and the rewards for your loyalty and caring spirit will be returned ten-fold. And this from a dog-person.

**critter crazy** · 10-18-2007, 09:10 PM

Originally Posted by catnapper

Same thing with my brother. He gave me the biggest guilt trip over Pouncer's surgery. I told him I'd feel like a murderer if I denied him vet care. He told me I was denying my family essentials and that I already saved his life once by rescuing him. I just realized there is a HUGE difference in what is important to both of us. He gets season tickets to major league baseball, theater tickets for Thomas the Tank for his 2 year old, takes long vacations, etc. He chooses to spend his money on those things. He considers them important. I consider them frivolous (especially the season tickets when the game is on his huge plasma TV).

I know my funds are tight. You're funds are equally tight, yet we both realize the promise we made to ourselves and pets is a serious one that requires a lifelong commitment.

PS: I got a bonus from work yesterday and ran most of it over to the vet this afternoon. My coworker bought a $120 purse with her bonus.... we all spend money in our own way and its nobody's business to comment on what is important.

WOW!!! Your brother sounds just like my BIL!! are they related??

**K9karen** · 10-18-2007, 10:40 PM

Donna, you sure we're not related?

Same sly remarks, always. Not so much about Mz Klo (he wouldn't dare) but heartless crap. My advise. Forget about it cuz what goes around, comes around.

I can't say my bro hasn't helped me out, but it's always with a comment. He forgets if it wasn't for OTHER people, he wouldn't be where he is today. Jesh..now I'm b******* ! Your thread hit home, that's all. Hugs Hugs Hugs!

**davidpizzica** · 10-19-2007, 02:20 AM

Donna, are you SURE that your brother and Kenny weren't comparing notes?? Donna, with a brother like Kenny, I understand your situation perfectly. "Diamond Jim" Kenny P gave me a twenty at the beginning of this week and told me that the twenty will have to last me the whole week! Our two brothers have to stop talking to each other! Donna, Kenny's spending mucho bucks having the engine in his Mustang redone and the moths came flying out of his wallet whe he gave me that twenty! Donna your first priority is sweet Mollie Rose's health.