Well at least he is admitting to not completely understanding it, but it was a sleazy thing for your bil to do. I'm glad I lucked out with my in-laws. They wouldn't be that selfish. He might not understand how much the one for your anniversary means to you because it was from him. Plus what if the new one breaks down???? You always need a back up camera and what could be better than having the one hubby gave you on such a special day. I'm sure if he thinks about it this way he'll understand. And as far as feeling that he OWES his brother for being there through the depression I hope that wasn't something his brother put in his mind. Family is suppose to be there through thick and thin.