They came and took him! What do I do now? *UPDATE PAGE 5!*

[Grace]

I doubt very much it is shingles. That only shows up after Chicken Pox - has he had that? And usually many years after Chicken Pox - when you are old, not young.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

I doubt very much it is shingles. That only shows up after Chicken Pox - has he had that? And usually many years after Chicken Pox - when you are old, not young.

Not necessarily - Katie has managed to pack both into her 17 years

How are things progressing Summer? Has that awful Stephanie disappeared yet?? (we can but hope)

[sumbirdy]

No she hasn't disappeared yet. I wish she would though. Charles is still here with us and him and dad are going to go get his stuff today. He's still not sure if he wants to leave Stephanie permanently though. I don't think he thinks he'll find anyone who wants a guy that already has a kid. I don't know what he's going to do.

[Catty1]

I don't think he thinks he'll find anyone who wants a guy that already has a kid

Believe me, that should be the LAST thing on his mind. He has a lot of healing to do so he can choose a healthy partner next time. And a lot of single dads do really well.

I hope DHS has a lawyer or counsellor that can advise him of his rights. I think that once he is out of there for a while, it will start to hit him as to what he - and Nathan - have been living with.

Better a single dad than a dad and a really sick mom.

I hope everything goes okay when they get his stuff. As long as no one gets hurt, I hope she does something she can get arrested for!

And I hope Charles can help you get custody of Nathan - as he has been right there.

Hugs!

[Grace]

I don't think he thinks he'll find anyone who wants a guy that already has a kid. I don't know what he's going to do.

It most certainly can happen. I was a single mom and found an absolutely wonderful man who was more than delighted to connect with me and my son. That was almost 30 years ago.

Problem is Charles is so young right now - it's hard to imagine life in the future.

[sumbirdy]

Well, he went to get his stuff and found out that...she threw it all out. He also couldn't find anything of Nathans. This is how it went:

They came and at first she wasn't there. When she came up she said they better hurry or she would call the cops. (She took his name off of the lease) She told Charles that she was out all last night with another guy doing-ahem-I think you can guess. But she didn't use pleasant terms. Nathan has medicine that he is supposed to be taking and Charles tried to get it but she snatched it away from him and that really ticked him off (what kind of mother wouldn't want her baby to have his medicine?) Anyway we don't have the money for a lawyer to get them a divorce and Legal Aid won't take the case until October 15.
He said she didn't even mention Nathan. I wonder if that made him see that she never really cared about Nathan.
Anyway he said all of her stuff was gone too so I think she's staying over at her friends house (or her new guy friend, perhaps?)
I hate to see Charles hurting but I'm glad that he has come to his senses.
Charles called CPS last night or the night before last and told them all the stuff he has seen her do to Nathan (she would pop him in the mouth until his mouth bled and hang him upside down by his feet and shake him) and you know what they said? They said there is nothing they could do because their case is closed.
But anyway, we can tell that Charles definetly needs help with Nathan. He told us that Nathan wasn't leaving this house until Charles got everything worked out and I think if wins in the custody battle and gets sole custody of Nathan (do you think that will happen?) then he is going to give my parents temporary guardianship. I hope this all works out and Stephanie becomes out of the picture for good.
Oh and one last thing I almost forgot. Charles told us that he recognized all the signs, and he thinks she is pregnant again.

[Catty1]

They said there is nothing they could do because their case is closed.

Charles has not even filed his own charges yet. He will have to report all this anyway when he is filing for custody.

I hope he can get some good legal advice that won't cost him too much. Does DHS or CPS not have one?

IF Stephanie is pregnant again...I am so sorry to say this, but because of what she said, I wonder if Charles is the father?

Your brother is very brave - I know he is hurting a lot, and he wanted to believe the best - but he is being brave and putting Nathan and himself first.

HUGS and prayers to all of you. And Stephanie too...she sure needs them.

[mrspunkysmom]

Oklahoma Legal Assistance

I hope this helps.

I searched for "Oklahoma Pro Bono Lawyers" and found the site.

It never hurts to ask.