They came and took him! What do I do now? *UPDATE PAGE 5!*

**Karen** · 08-01-2007, 11:45 PM

Oh, yay! Congratulations most of all to Charles, for realizing, and for putting his foot down.

**Catty1** · 08-01-2007, 11:59 PM

That is AWESOME!!!!!

I hope there will still be some charges against Stephanie...and/or that Charles realizes Nathan should be with you folks most of the time if he just can't give him the care he needs all the time.

I hope your dad informs DSH about the flea bites...and less smiling....

Does your family still have an application for custody?

**sumbirdy** · 08-02-2007, 12:11 AM

Originally Posted by Catty1

That is AWESOME!!!!!

I hope there will still be some charges against Stephanie...and/or that Charles realizes Nathan should be with you folks most of the time if he just can't give him the care he needs all the time.

I hope your dad informs DSH about the flea bites...and less smiling....

Does your family still have an application for custody?

I don't think she has any charges against her and Charles has changed his story about how good of a mom she is (from bad to great) so many times that I don't know what he believes anymore.

We talked to DHS about him not being as happy but they said they can't go get him because he's not happy.

Dad was trying to get legal guardianship but found out he can't do that unless both parents sign their consent (even if she was in jail)

**Catty1** · 08-02-2007, 01:11 AM

Well, after a few more visits with Nathan, and with Adult Protective Services checking on them....you never know what the future may bring.

Hugs and prayers!

**chocolatepuppy** · 08-02-2007, 05:14 AM

I'm so glad you get to see Nathan!

**sumbirdy** · 08-02-2007, 01:37 PM

About four this morning I woke up to the most awful crying. It was heart wrenching. He sounded so scared and when I picked him up he cried harder until he heard my voice. Then he hushed a little and I walked him around the room talking to him and he snuggled against me. I guess at first he thought he was back at Stephanie's house and that it was Stephanie picking him up. I never heard him cry like that in his whole life. It makes me wonder what she has done to him. Every time I tried to put him back in his bed he would cry and finally at about six or six-thirty we both fell asleep with him on my chest.
When he lived here before he was fine with playing by himself in his room for a few minutes while we did something (like wash the dishes or laundry) but now if we get out of his eyesight he starts crying until we come back and pick him up.
Last night he when I gave him a bath he acted like he hadn't had a bath in forever (and smelled like it too) and mom said when they picked him up his clothes he was wearing were filthy. She asked Stephanie if he had just ate and she said "No, he's just a boy." which basically means "No, I just don't clean him up." I'm ok with letting kids get dirty but don't just let them sit in the filth! Mom took the shirt off that he was wearing and was going to take it to show DHS how filthy they keep him but Stephanie snatched it away from her.
The bumps he has all over him have gotten bigger and redder so we're going to take him to the doctor either today or tomorrow to find out just what they are.
We're pouring on the love with Nathan and he's beginning to smile a little more. We're going to show him the best we can what it's like to be loved unconditionally every minute of the day. Pretty soon he's going to start noticing the difference between us and his mother.

**Catty1** · 08-02-2007, 01:54 PM

I hope your mom brings him home next time and THEN takes the shirt to DHS.

I mean...any normal mom would have their kid clean and fresh cloths for a visit.

I am glad he is starting to smile. I still pray for positive things in the future.

I hope the bumps are easily treatable...does DHS get a copy of Nathan's medical reports?

HUGS!

**Alysser** · 08-06-2007, 07:33 PM

Woah, haven't posted since before you got Nathan back.

I am so happy you get to see him again! Great news. I have one question. Wasn't Stephanie supposed to be arrested?? I really hope she is soon.

**sumbirdy** · 08-06-2007, 07:42 PM

Originally Posted by Maltese_Love

Woah, haven't posted since before you got Nathan back.

I am so happy you get to see him again! Great news. I have one question. Wasn't Stephanie supposed to be arrested?? I really hope she is soon.

She talked to her parole officer and he ended up dropping the warrant. It would have been nice if she was that way Nathan probably would have been here full time and not have to be with her.

**sumbirdy** · 08-08-2007, 02:07 PM

So...Stephanie took Nathan to get his shots yesterday and told Charles that the doctor said that Nathan was stressed from being over here. Mom called this doctor (It just happens that we've known him for a while) and he said that he didn't say anything about stress and was really upset that she lied about what he said. So...mom told Charles this and he said "Yeah, I knew that didn't sound right." This was the only home Nathan ever knew, why the heck would he be stressed from being over here? Besides, we're very quite people that rarely yell which is the exact opposite over there. Where do you think he would be stressed at?
Anyway, mom told Charles he needed to come to his senses and he said "Yeah, I'm getting there." So mom said, "Well while you're 'getting there' Nathan is suffering" Charles told mom he wouldn't leave Stephanie because he's afraid that she would lie about a bunch of stuff about him. She already told him that if he did anything wrong she was going to call DHS and tell them that all the stuff we said she was doing was actually stuff that he was doing but mom and dad didn't want to tell them that because Charles is their son. She ticks me off so much

What I don't get is why doesn't Charles go to DHS himself now and confirm all the stuff we have told them. But he's always saying that he doesn't want to make her mad. Who cares?! He needs to step up and protect his son and get both Nathan and himself away from her.

**Catty1** · 08-08-2007, 04:16 PM

What does he mean, MAKE her mad???

She ALWAYS is.

He might as well give her something to get REALLY mad about.

It's like an abused wife - he has to find a safe place for him and Nathan through DHS, and then report what has been happening.

I hope he does....

**sumbirdy** · 08-02-2007, 12:08 AM

I am so happy too! Stephanie was all in fake mommy mode when mom and dad got him. ( I didn't go with them) All teary eyed and saying she will miss him and stuff.

After 11 1/2 months of only seeing him about every 3 months or so (sometimes longer) and not even seeming to care when she was with him, she's not gonna make us believe this one. You don't just automatically switch from who gives a dang to perfect mommy. She tried to tell mom how to take care of him (like we hadn't raised him for nearly a year! And she didn't bother to ask us anything about him when they came and took him)
Anyway she's saying that she doesn't want him here every so often but Charles said that's the way it's gonna be and dang it we're going to hold him to it! Plus adult protective service was there to have a little chat with them and said they better make mom happy or they were pressing charges. I bet that scared 'em!
Nathan is so clingy now. Every time I try to put him to bed he cries and holds his arms up to me, so he's still awake (It's midnight here). I can't get enough of holding him.
We're having a late birthday party tomorrow.