It sounds familiar around here too. Abby sounds a lot like Luna in that she doesn't do much without thinking it through first then gets spooked easily and rushes off. I'll have any cat in bed and Abby will jump up, see the others and jump off. It breaks my heart too because she's my sleeping buddy. Or she'll already be in bed and Pouncer, Nicki, or Flutter will jump up and she'll leave (especially Pouncer, she might stay if Harry or Allen come to bed while she's there). Heck, she'll leave if hubby gets into bed. This afternoon she and I were cozy watching tv. Hubby came over to ask a question. He just stood next to the bed and she was scared off. Just a sensitive nature I guess.

Then as you know, I have lots of issues with Pouncer being easily stressed. He's FINALLY healthy. For the first time what has to be 2 years. I know exactly what you're feeling. I wish I had an answer but I don't. I muddle through it myself.