The relationship between Luna and Lily is getting somewhat problematic (pix added #9)

[Laura's Babies]

I tell you what I do and that is to brush each one for some one on one time, our special time for bonding and loving. Amy enjoys it the most and as long as I will brush, she will lay there and purrrrrrrr. Giz LOVES it also but on her terms, not laying but walking back and forth, never being still and always trying to grab the shedding tool. Samantha don't care for it a bit so we get our one on one time when she gets in my lap. Boo is a compltetely different story, she is a touch me not that demands attention, mainly laying in your lap or in bed laying against me. I just try to make sure they each get alone time with me and I really enjoy it...

As far as liking each other! NOT! They will not lay on the same bed, the same sofa or share ANYTHING.... opps, except for treat time...

[Kirsten]

Thanks!

Gary, it's not that they fight all the time. Today for instance, both of them were relaxed and rested on my bed most of the time.

Catty1, I think it wouldn't make a difference to wait until Nancy is back from her holiday, but that Michael may also be an option. Thanks for bringing this to my attention!

Laura, I think one good thing about brushing is that the brush will put their scents on each other. This was something that helped Luna accepting Lily when I brought her home 4 years ago. I rubbed them with a wet towel because it was too hot, and the effect was amazing. I think I will try this again tomorrow.


BTW, here are some photos of them, taken last Sunday when it was VERY hot. The girls were in the living room, and they didn't mind being close to each other.






Lily, sweet as usual:




Luna, impossible not to melt when she's looking at you like this:

[DJFyrewolf36]

Having three males and a female, I can tell you from experence that getting females to get along is very difficult. Spook will start teritorial peeing and growling with another female in the house (even temporarily) and doesn't really care about males, even guests and newcomers.

I hope Luna and Lilly start getting along again!

[jenluckenbach]

Females are notoriously more catty (LOL, good pun!!! )

I doubt that either of them are truly unhappy. They sound very much like human siblings. Their sister is wonderful company when mom is not home, but they want to do everything in their power to show mom just how HARD their sister makes their life. You know how it is....."MOM, she's touching me!!!" "MOM, she's looking at me!" MOM, I wanted that toy!" etc.


Just continue to reassure them both and give them ample attention. Things will be fine, I am sure.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Kirsten, I'm sorry to hear this. As you know I now have 4 boys and 2 girls and I've been having problems with my alpha male Storm. He's now been weaned off of clomiclam because it was just making him dopey and it wasn't
working very well for his aggressive behavior. I contacted Nancy and she said that Sunny is trying to become the alpha cat and I've seen him attacking Storm. Storm won't back down and doesn't want to be overthrown.

Lately I've noticed Storm being aggressive towards Starr, Sky, and Pearl. He's always been a very jealous cat and has learned to come to me more for attention. I try to give him a lot of alone time back in my bedroom but sometimes he won't stay here. I've been using feliway plugins and spray and it helps some what but it won't make all of his aggressiveness go away.

The older Storm's become the less tolerance he has towards his siblings. He and Pearl used to be very loving towards each other and she still doesn't understand what she did because she'd like to cuddle with him again but he won't allow it. Both he and Starr have an appointment with a holistic vet. I have to wait until Aug. 9th though becasue the doctor is booked. May be you should try taking Luna to a holistic vet. I hope that you'll be able to find something that will help calm Luna down. Good luck.

[catnapper]

It sounds familiar around here too. Abby sounds a lot like Luna in that she doesn't do much without thinking it through first then gets spooked easily and rushes off. I'll have any cat in bed and Abby will jump up, see the others and jump off. It breaks my heart too because she's my sleeping buddy. Or she'll already be in bed and Pouncer, Nicki, or Flutter will jump up and she'll leave (especially Pouncer, she might stay if Harry or Allen come to bed while she's there). Heck, she'll leave if hubby gets into bed. This afternoon she and I were cozy watching tv. Hubby came over to ask a question. He just stood next to the bed and she was scared off. Just a sensitive nature I guess.

Then as you know, I have lots of issues with Pouncer being easily stressed. He's FINALLY healthy. For the first time what has to be 2 years. I know exactly what you're feeling. I wish I had an answer but I don't. I muddle through it myself.

[jennielynn1970]

My girls seem to have the most issues too.

Sophie is very timid and will take a long time to decide to come up and visit with me, come on the bed, or the sofa. If anyone jumps up, or a loud noise startles her, off she goes and you don't see her again for at least 30 minutes. Sophie is also one who will back up to the wall and spray. UGH!

Boris is another sensitive girl. She spends most of her time alone in the dining room or in the kitchen on top of the fridge. She and Sophie used to be the best of buddies and were together all the time, but since I moved into my house, they act like they hate each other, which I totally don't understand. Sophie was so caring and sweet with Boris when Boris was a kitten. She groomed her, and they slept cuddled up together all the time. Now it's all hisses and spits! Boris is also a pee-er, but normally it's the stove, the countertops, against the microwave.... sigh. I'm so tired of cat pee.

Finae is the loner. She really wants nothing to do with the other kitties. She's momma's girl. I've had her from the time she was about 6-8 weeks old. She gets annoyed with the other kitties, hates the fosters, and she will also do the territorial spraying. She loves when people come to visit and will be all over them and act like she never gets attention.

My foster Furbee is also a female and she seems to hate all the other cats as well. I think she's the one who poops outside the box most times. She really needs a home of her own so she will relax.

My boys are pretty good. Jorgie loves all other cats. He wants to meet every new cat that comes in and even when they hiss and spit at him he looks at me like "What did I do?! I'm the nice one!" and he'll just stay there until they decide to like him or chase the heck out of him to get him away!

Honey, the other male, doesn't seem to care for other kitties too much, especially other males when they want my attention. The more the male fosters wanted my attention, the closer Honey got when he was sitting on me. My lap, then my stomach, then my chest, my neck.... it was like, he was trying to get as close to me as possible to keep the others away! Of course now that most of those needy fosters are gone, he's no where to be found until it's dinner time. Typical male....

I do think most boys are more agreeable but I think it just depends on the cat. My fosters have been WAY more behaved than my own cats. Sometimes I sit here thinking I'm adopting out the wrong cats!