The relationship between Luna and Lily is getting somewhat problematic (pix added #9)

[Kirsten]

is it just me, or does it seem that female cats seem to have harder times getting along with other female cats?

Hm, I don't know, I never had males. Would be interesting to hear what others think about this.

Kirsten

[catmandu]

I know that for years The Princess and Precious had a real fued gong with lots of snarls and hisses.
But after her Dear Shemp passed on ,then they actually became friends.Thats really the only rivalry as they really do get along.
That must be terrible to have Two Cats in an apartment and have this fighting. we pray that they can become friends again.

[Catty1]

Okay, Kirsten - the next male kitten you meet....

The psychic, Nancy Efrusy, is on holidays for about another 10 days, I think. But see Marketplace for Michael, a pet psychologist in Vienna - basic services are no charge. That might be an idea.

[Laura's Babies]

I tell you what I do and that is to brush each one for some one on one time, our special time for bonding and loving. Amy enjoys it the most and as long as I will brush, she will lay there and purrrrrrrr. Giz LOVES it also but on her terms, not laying but walking back and forth, never being still and always trying to grab the shedding tool. Samantha don't care for it a bit so we get our one on one time when she gets in my lap. Boo is a compltetely different story, she is a touch me not that demands attention, mainly laying in your lap or in bed laying against me. I just try to make sure they each get alone time with me and I really enjoy it...

As far as liking each other! NOT! They will not lay on the same bed, the same sofa or share ANYTHING.... opps, except for treat time...

[Kirsten]

Thanks!

Gary, it's not that they fight all the time. Today for instance, both of them were relaxed and rested on my bed most of the time.

Catty1, I think it wouldn't make a difference to wait until Nancy is back from her holiday, but that Michael may also be an option. Thanks for bringing this to my attention!

Laura, I think one good thing about brushing is that the brush will put their scents on each other. This was something that helped Luna accepting Lily when I brought her home 4 years ago. I rubbed them with a wet towel because it was too hot, and the effect was amazing. I think I will try this again tomorrow.


BTW, here are some photos of them, taken last Sunday when it was VERY hot. The girls were in the living room, and they didn't mind being close to each other.






Lily, sweet as usual:




Luna, impossible not to melt when she's looking at you like this:

[DJFyrewolf36]

Having three males and a female, I can tell you from experence that getting females to get along is very difficult. Spook will start teritorial peeing and growling with another female in the house (even temporarily) and doesn't really care about males, even guests and newcomers.

I hope Luna and Lilly start getting along again!

[jenluckenbach]

Females are notoriously more catty (LOL, good pun!!! )

I doubt that either of them are truly unhappy. They sound very much like human siblings. Their sister is wonderful company when mom is not home, but they want to do everything in their power to show mom just how HARD their sister makes their life. You know how it is....."MOM, she's touching me!!!" "MOM, she's looking at me!" MOM, I wanted that toy!" etc.


Just continue to reassure them both and give them ample attention. Things will be fine, I am sure.