They came and took him! What do I do now? *UPDATE PAGE 5!*

[Queen of Poop]

We've got it all crossed for you sweetheart. Praying hard that you get little Nathan back.

[sumbirdy]

Thank you.

[Lilith Cherry]

You are in all my good thoughts, Sumbirdy; I hope that tomorrow you have Nathan back safe and happy with you and your Dad.

[WELOVESPUPPIES]

I have been following this thread and thinking of you and your family ever since I first read it(even though I never post). I pray that everything works out and that Nathan gets to come home with you. I pray that his mother gets what she deserves and that her little boy with grow up in your household where he is safe and dearly loved. God bless you all. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

[sumbirdy]

Mom just talked to the caseworker. They probably won't pick her up until tomorrow (they have no clue when the other county is going to get her Monday and they can only hold her 72 hours.) She has a say in where she wants Nathan to go but ultimately it's up to Charles where he stays (I just hope she doesn't tell him where to leave Nathan and Charles just goes along with it) When she gets picked up we get notified and then we are going out with a policeman to talk to Charles (just so there's no trouble if those other people are there) I know if mom and dad talk to Charles they can work something out and Charles may even let us bring Nathan home with us. (I'm praying that's the case)
Anyway what this all comes down to is another day without Nathan.

[joycenalex]

my prayers are for nathans' prompt return to the loving stable home he has known. kindest regards, joyce

[sumbirdy]

They still have not arrested her (or if they did they have not notified us, which they said they would) It's past 3:00 and I don't know why it's taking them so long. Maybe they don't think of it as an emergency. (?) Or maybe the people she is staying with work on Saturdays and she's not answering the door. Anyway she has a court date Monday and dad said that if she shows up (unescorted by police officers) he is going to the police station (which is right next to the court house) and asking them about it.
But I just want Nathan away from her. She needs help and he's not safe there.

[Queen of Poop]

Curious, her myspace page shows 1 friend, Tom. Says that she is single and doesn't want any kids. Isn't that all contradictory to her current state!? I definately think the caseworker needs to know about this information.

[sumbirdy]

Curious, her myspace page shows 1 friend, Tom. Says that she is single and doesn't want any kids. Isn't that all contradictory to her current state!? I definately think the caseworker needs to know about this information.

Tom is on everyone's friend list. He is the creator or something. But yes, it does say she is single and doesn't want kids. (Which are both things you have to pick, they are not atomatically set on them) We have a printed copy of hers. Charles' had said in February the same thing but in April he changed it to proud parent but it still says that he is single.
There is also a lady that used to work with Stephanie that we know. This lady had no idea Stephanie had a son. Stephanie had told her that she didn't have any kids and never wanted any.

[sumbirdy]

It is another sleepless night. Every time I close my eyes I see little Nathan and can't help but cry. Is he scared, I wonder. I know he has to miss us and wonder where we are at. That hurts most of all. I don't want him to think we have abandoned him. We are the only family he knows. This house is the only house he knows. Poor baby has been forced to live with strangers and sleep in a house and a crib that he doesn't know. He never did well with sleeping in an unfamiliar place. Every time we had to go somewhere and spend the night somewhere else he would cry all night long. And that was with us with him. How much worse is it with people he does not know? How could someone be so cruel and do this to a child?

[sumbirdy]

Well, I got to see Nathan today, and hold him. But for only like 2 minutes. The other county has dropped their charges on Stephanie so she no longer has a warrant out for her. (They dropped the day after we filed charges, which seems a little fishy) Charles said we could come by and see Nathan. Mom couldn't bear seeing him but not being able to take him home so dad stayed in the car while I went to their door. Nathan acted like a totally different child. He acted like he didn't know me and I didn't see him smile once. (He always smiles for strangers, he loves people) He had a slight reddish rash on his face. Charles wanted to take him out to the car to see my parents but Stephanie wouldn't let him. She thought we were just going steal him (we're not that stupid) so she tried to take him from my arms but I wouldn't (couldn't) let him go. She threatened to call the police (what would they have done? Charles invited me there and Nathan is my nephew. Besides the house is under Charles' name, not hers) I finally had to let Nathan go because she was tugging so hard I thought she would hurt him. I told her that if she cared about him she would have got him a long time ago (like when they got a house) She just said "Whatever". She didn't even say that she did care for Nathan. Then she went inside with Nathan and starting cursing Charles and screaming at him.
I will never forget that look in Nathan's eyes. Like someone who has seen so much. And he's only a little over a year old. That's sad.
I feel so helpless, like there's nothing we can do and it's so physically and emotionally draining. I told Charles that if he didn't make things better (not necessarily by giving Nathan to us, but letting us be freely able to see him and take him places like out to get ice cream, the zoo, or over to our house for the weekend, normal stuff that grandparents and aunts should be able to do with their grandchildren and nephew/niece) then he lost his parents, sister, and probably brother too. She has said so much about us, lies and hurtful things, and he never once stood up for us, he just let it happen. He said he is trying to make things right but I don't believe him anymore. As far as I'm concerned I only have one brother and his name isn't Charles. I would leave someone who has talked about my parents the way she has. My sister-in-law, Dana said that if she said half the things about my parents that Stephanie has then she would expect Bobby (my oldest brother) to leave her. But Charles just stands by us and lets her say these things, lets her crush us. Then he trys to say he loves us. I don't believe that.
It's been a very bad day. All hope seems to be lost but I love Nathan so much that I will never give up on this. Like I have said before, I will fight until he is 18. I will know where he is at (not stalking, just knowing his location and if he's safe and happy) I want to keep up with his well-being. I will not let her win. I cannot let her win. This is not over.

[sumbirdy]

This is the last post I will be posting on this thread unless something drastically changes. I have to face the fact that Nathan is more than likely never coming back (not even to visit) and also that he is Charles' child and Charles will have to deal with the emotional problems of a little boy who never feels a mothers love and sees her scream at his father (and more than likely him) and lash out and hit. The system (child welfare) is so screwed up. We had told them we seen her abuse him in November but they said it "has to have been more recent" so basically he has to be hurt before they will do anything. They've heard things from countless people (even people who work for them) that have told them how she is and how she cannot control her anger and how she is violent but overall it is up to the person that is over everybody to say if they go get him...and she says no. Basically he has to be beaten first. This place obviously doesn't look at emotional abuse. If you had seen Nathan when he was living here and then again yesterday you would have seen a big difference. It is obvious, so incredibly obvious, that he is not happy and that he has already been emotionally abused. Now it is only a matter of time, when Stephanie thinks it is all over and she is no longer being watched, that the physical abuse will start. (Well, actually, continue since it already started when she was living with us) It is up to Charles to protect him and keep his safe and I'm not sure that he will.
I'm going to use my mental Backspace button to delete Charles from ever being my brother and Stephanie from ever entering my life. But I cannot delete Nathan. I will think of him everyday, I will always worry about him and what she has done. Please keep Nathan in your prayers. Pray that she will not hurt him too bad (preferably not at all, but I know that she will) Please keep us in your thoughts as well, that we will move on, that we will continue to survive and live. Because honestly right now the thing I want to do the most is just go to sleep...and never...never wake up.