Need some "legal" advice.....

**Cataholic** · 06-25-2007, 02:51 PM

Take this for what it is, free advice.

You have full, legal, and the only custody of the baby. The father has no legal rights in this situation until he has them established. This is done through paternity testing, or by affadavit.

I would encourage you to get in touch with a local women's group to work issues out. For starters, I would tell you the following: do not have him sign the birth certificate, do not give the baby his last name, and do not get all embroiled with who gets whom over holidays. It is too early. A lot can happen in 4-5 months, not to mention a newborn is usually better served in the mother's custody for the first several months.

If you know now this is not a relationship you wish to be involved in, I would stop all communication with him. He has no 'rights' to speak of until after the baby is born, and has to have them established.

**moosmom** · 06-25-2007, 03:26 PM

I wouldn't put his name on the birth certificate either.

Great advice, as always Cataholic!!

**racing_gurl07** · 06-25-2007, 03:56 PM

thanks for advice! am i a bad person for not letting him be around this child?

**Catty1** · 06-25-2007, 03:59 PM

No you are not being bad for not letting him be around his child!

If he cleans up his act, and starts to behave like a father, that might be another thing.

But until he does, he qualifies only for the position of Past Sperm Donor.

Think of it the other way - letting your child be around him! NOT a good idea AT ALL.

Take care of you and your baby, and contact some of the resources suggested.

hugs!

**moosmom** · 06-25-2007, 04:02 PM

Absolutely not!! You know what's in the best interest of the child. I wouldn't let my daughter go with my aunt, because she would drink and drive. So no, you're doing the right thing.