How did you know he was the "one"?

[catnapper]

I met hubby over the internet. I was falling for him through his letters, but I was disappointed when I met him. I tried to fix him up with my best friends because I knew he was an awesome guy, but he did nothing for me in the looks department (oh so vain!)

We were only dating a month when Christmas came, and since we both had off the week between Christmas and New Years, we spent a lot of time together. I met his whole family and fell totally in love with this great loving, caring man over that week. I didn't care that he was 300+ pounds and looked like Santa Claus. I saw his heart.

[Puckstop31]

To expand a little on what Sparks has already said...

When she first messaged me, I was not even online. Apparently her system told her I was, but I was in southern Virgina with my National Guard unit on our annual training. Anyway, she PMed me and was apparently POed that I did not respond. When I got home from AT, the next morning I log on and see this offline message... I respond. We play "PM tag" for a few days until we actually end up online at the same time....

The rest as they say is history. Never in my life did I ever think God would bless me with such a beautiful, intelligent, witty, strong, confident, and loving woman like Tanya. We all know that saying, "don't settle for someone you can live with, find the person you cannot live without." Tanya is that to me.

Love ya baby, always. (Even when you are messy... )

[sparks19]

Love ya baby, always. (Even when you are messy... )

LOL Thank God.... because I am always messy

He likes to describe our hotel trips and say that it's like my bag of clothes just barfs all over the room. LOL what can I say... I am disorganized (except for in my work lol) and messy.

Thank you for such a nice and thoughtful post.... I love you the most.

[prechrswife]

My husband and I were friends first. We knew each other for over a year and got along well. We hadn't seen each other for awhile, and then ran into each other, and before that day was over, he had asked me out for the first time. That was on Super Bowl Sunday. By Valentine's Day, we were unofficially engaged. How I knew--he is the kind of person that I can be completely myself with. I am an introvert by nature, and I am completely relaxed with him. We share the same values and have very similar interests and personalities, too.

[Sophist]

With my husband, there was an instant connection--- but not love at first sight. We became instant fast friends, which is very unlike both of us, and we were best friends for some time afterwards without having any sort of romantic or physical relationship (it helped that there is an age gap... I am 25 now, he is 32. Not that bad now, but when I was 14, it would have been a HUGE problem, lol).

When we did date, I eventually refused his marriage proposal (I was very young, had a lot of growing up to do, was frightened, and had huge family troubles to deal with). His mom still hates me for breaking his heart. It wasn't easy at first, but we ended up becoming best friends again for a few years.

We lost touch eventually... for years. Different states, different schools, and he had 'stepped aside' when I was engaged to someone else (called it off soon after, but he assumed for all the years that we were out of touch I was married and lost for good).

Eventually I had an epiphany that yes, most people have 'the one that got away', but I was still using him as the measurement of all other prospective partners, and they always fell short. All other men were put up against the way he'd treated me and related to me, and he left them in the dust, hands down, every time. I'd never stopped thinking about him or having feelings for him, I'd just justified that for a long time by thinking everyone felt that way about their 'first love'.

His phone number was no good any more, his address was no good anymore, all I had was an old hotmail address that I'd last emailed him at about four years before. I took a chance, sent a mail saying, basically "I love you and I am sorry it took so long."

It pretty much floored him, lol, but he felt the same. We managed to arrange a 'first date', and afterwards I proposed. He said yes. And now he's stuck, poor guy.

My family loves making fun of us, saying that for two people who despise romantic movies, we've lived a pretty big chick-flick cliche, lol.

[Twisterdog]

I didn't care that he was 300+ pounds and looked like Santa Claus. I saw his heart.

Ahhhh. That is beyond sweet. If more people in the world could see beyond the physical to what really counts, the vast majority of people would be so much happier. My commendation to you for being able to see with truly wise eyes.

[catnapper]

Ahhhh. That is beyond sweet. If more people in the world could see beyond the physical to what really counts, the vast majority of people would be so much happier. My commendation to you for being able to see with truly wise eyes.

Awwww... shucks. He truly is a sweet man and I'm lucky to have him. He comes across as gruff and opinionated (ask Jen Leckenbach, she's afraid of him! ) but in the end he's the biggest pushover of them all.

PS: Shhh.... don't tell him I was considering setting him up with my friends! LOL