What a huge slap in the face...

[Karen]

What grade are you in? How does your sister feel about this, and would it be hard to be separated from her for you?

[angelbow20]

Didnt you say in a post before that your grandfather lived in a trailer next to your farm? Couldnt you stay with him until you are old enough to live on your own so you dont have to switch schools and move?

[carole]

I really do feel for you, it will be really hard for you,i guess your parents are shifting there because they feel it will be a better life for you all, but again this does not make it any easier for you, i have always thought long and hard before i made any decisions to move with my children, hence we have lived in the same place for over 23 years, and no chance of leaving,not until my daughter is grown up, change is hard for everyone, especially in the teenage years, i wish you well and hope you can find happiness in your new environment. hugs

[catnapper]

I'm sorry. As I said before, I hated moving in my sophomore year of highschool but the move turned out to be the best thing ever.

I also seem to remember your hesitation in moving to the new school that you're telling us you love and don't want to leave. Perhaps ytou'll love the new town and school too.

It really stinks when things happen to you that you have no control over. Try to look at this positively and embrace the new experiences you'll have.

[Toby's my baby]

What grade are you in? How does your sister feel about this, and would it be hard to be separated from her for you?

I'm in 9th grade right now, my sister wants to move, and it probably would be hard to seperate from her, but I think I could do it because I'd see her all the time.

My dad is comming back here every two weeks for two weeks because he can't sell his business because we won't be making enought money with just my mom's job. It is going to suck, my mom will probably be working overtime a lot, and then my dad is going to be gone all the time. I'm used to my dad being home almost all the time, and my mom is always home when I'm home, she's a teacher at the moment, so if I don't have school neither does she. It's going to be so different.

[finn's mom]

Just take a deep breath. Cry all you need to. Please try not to be too angry at your parents. Keep in mind...they are just like you, only older and with a lot more on their plate (not demeaning what you have in your life, because I remember being in ninth grade, it's hard work!). Your parents have to make decisions that scare them, changes that they aren't sure about, they have to make new friends and start over, too. It's not easy for them, either, even if they are excited about the move. I remember being taken from South Carolina and moved to Germany! It was hard, I don't think I ate for a week. I cried, I pouted, I fretted, I worried. And, then we moved anyway. You seem to be a very outgoing, active, open minded person. I don't see you having problems making new friends. And, believe me, the friends you're meant to keep in touch with, you will. I have a friend that I've known since third grade. She's the only friend I still keep in touch with regularly since I left the USA when we were in 8th grade. I moved a lot after that move, too, and I can tell you this. Every single move was hard. I cried and worried. I missed the people I left, but I made new friends where I went. And, from each place, I have memories that other people wish they had! There are pros and cons to both types of lifestyles...never moving and moving all the time. Any time changes pop up, you really have to try and embrace the positive aspects of them. Face the negative ones, admit that it sucks in a lot of ways...and then move on from it. You will only hurt yourself if you focus too much on what you're leaving behind. And, Arizona is within the continental USA! If you can drive, you're never really that far.

You know I think a lot of you and your sister. And, I may not be able to know EXACTLY what you're feeling, but I can relate very closely. I remember what it was like. Keep your chin up. I think you should give it a shot. Character is built during times like this!

xoxo

[sirrahbed]

I am so sorry to read this and I really do feel for you

I have been part of a military family all of my life and we have had to move every three years or so. During school years - it is very, very upsetting and difficult. My three kids suffered through it as well.

Once you know for sure what you will be doing - I have a few suggestions to maybe help a bit. It helped our family to get out maps and look at the new location. Write to the Chamber of Commerce and request newcomer packages. These are free and usually contain lots of local info. Read about your new school and youth activities or things you are interested in - like your horses, etc. Start planning a return visit to come and see your friends again. Email and telephone can keep you in touch.

As hard as it is to move - there are always some wonderful things about it. Looking back, I know that each new place was happier and better than the places we left.

((((HUGS)))) to you. For now, I think Finn's Mom has some very good ideas to comfort you at this time.

[Marigold2]

This might be something that your parents feel they must do for finanical reasons. It might not be apperent to you now since you don't have to worry about those things. You are almost grown up and your parents have to do what they feel is best for the family as a whole. I think you should be supportive of them and try to understand their point of view. I am sure they would appreciate that. Perhaps this move is harder on them then you know. I am sure it took a lot of soul searching and planning for them. They are after all leaving their friends as well. Change is always scary but it is a time of growth as well. The world is a huge place and there is so much to see and do, new friends to meet, new places to explore. I hope that you can put a postive spin on this for your family's sake as well as your own. Try to think of this as an advanture not as a heartship. This can be postive you have to try and think of everyone in your family and not just what you want to do. Sorry if that seems harsh but that is the way I see it.

[Taz_Zoee]

I am sorry you are going through this. I cannot relate to what you are feeling. We lived in the house that my parents still live in since I was 3 years old. That might be why I have such a hard time with change now in my adult life. My brother was almost going to move his family to Texas and I was not happy about it. They have since changed thier minds (my SIL got a new job and loves it too much).
I know when I was in 8th grade a friends family moved but she lived with me until we finished the school year. Do you have any friends you could stay with? Or would your parents not hear of that?
Good luck and I'm sure you'll make the best of what ever happens.