Quote Originally Posted by Lobodeb
Do you have to respond? If he e-mails you, so what? Just don't reply.

As long as you are responding, then he'll keep trying to contact you. He probably thinks it's some sort of game you're playing. I would just save the e-mails in case you start feeling threatned. Let the people at your job know that he's been trying to contact you, that way, if he tries calling there, maybe they can screen your calls or better yet, tell him you are no longer employed there.
My email is safe, hes too stupid to remember what it is. I tried ignoring him before on MSN & then I started getting 60+ messages a day... It was mostly him boo hooing & that he'll change. Nothing threatening... I only started messaging him back so the 60+ messages would stop.. then he was hardly replying back, like once a week, then once a month type of thing. Then he dissapeared for Dec, until today.

Work already records who calls & for how long... I looked into that when he was calling my house all day & night long when I first dumpped him. There are also cameras outside.


Quote Originally Posted by Catsnclay
What he is doing is the same thing an abuser does. Please do not get caught up in his world - and that means talking to him in any way, shape or form. It will be hard, but it seems you have done this before, and you need to do it again.

I have seen first hand what abusers do - it is not pretty on both sides.
Really? Rob didn't try to contact me or anything. He left me broken, & scared for life. Today is the one year of freedom from him & I haven't heard a peep from him at all... I talk to his brother & go to his parents house as they LOVE me & HATE him... Rob enjoyed mental warfare (fear) & being agressive (no broken bones & no bruses, but both my shoulders have been simi disslocated..they still aren't right..., my spine is messed up & my whrists will never have full strength ever again & he did other things I'm not in the mood to disscuss today)..

Shawn wasn't any of that, so I don't understand the abuser part.

Maybe I'm underestimating the whole situation... I've only dated 2 guys.. Rob(7yrs) & Shawn (about 2 months).


Oh & he doesn't have a car, he travells by bus.. I live 40km away from where I use to live. I also know that Bear would eat him if he came to my door & tried anything. I'm also rarely ever alone. I'm usually with Chad or Andrew. If I'm home alone I have Bear & there is a panic button on the alarm system (its a 2 way intercom, super nifty) & it runs through the phone, so I just have to grab one of those if need be... But he'd still have to deal with Bear first... Yes shes a sweatheart & would harm a fly, but she is protective & has shown us that she would protect us if need be. So I honestly feel safe in that sence