He contacted me again, what do I do?

[Catty1]

Block him from Messenger and everything else, even your phone.

That you have the technology to do.

[king2005]

Block him from Messenger and everything else, even your phone.

That you have the technology to do.

He doesn't have any of my current phone numbers & when I block him from MSN he makes a new account.. I tried blocking him when he did the 60+ messages/day BS...

I kinda feel stupid I got myself into this stupid mess... I want to date again (NOT HIM, but someone nice, like Joe), but its so not worth the BS I've gone through already... I'm over picky & pretty much turn everyone down...

I have a crush on someone right now, but I'm far to scared to let him know. Everytime I see him or talk to him I swear I go beat red. I get extra quiet & start thinking (thats never a good thing with me)... I did take the next step & I added him to my MSN & I've been chatting with him a lot the past week. But I don't know what to do or think.. part of me says NO RUN & HIDE, but part of me says hes handsom, sweet, talks to me, wants to hang out & game with me (hes a gammer...I use to be, I'm trying to get back into it), we've already drank at a party & gone bowling in a group, & we talked to each other the most... But I'm so scared to get involved with anyone (joe or someone else)...

[Marigold2]

I wouldn't date anyone until you get this creep out of your life for good. He is diffently oppsessive about you. Dating someone now might make him angry and might make the abuse increase.

[Catty1]

Just call the police and report - NOT charge - him. Most stations have a stalking or domestic unit...

A women's shelter or organization - the Y? Could give you some direction on this.

Good luck.

[Vela]

How hard is it to just stop responding to him? If he doesn't have your number, doesn't have your email, and doesn't know where you live, stop answering him. He has never been abusive to you, per your words, so just stop answering his IMs. If he sends 60+ a day block him, block every name he tries to talk to you with and just don't say anything. It's not that big a deal honestly.

If you can't do that then change your MSN screen name. It's not hard to do. You CAN, you just don't want to, there is a big difference. If it's really that big a deal change it.

[wombat2u2004]

If he constantly changes names on MSN, and you click on a new message....you should recognise that it's him in the first few words....yes ??? As soon as that happens, just block that name. I mean how long will he keep that up for ??? He will eventually go away.
Wom

[columbine]

GO TO THE POLICE.

Their hands are tied anyway. The police can't do anything until somebody can PROVE a law has been broken, which is often way too late. Let them know you're being harassed (which is illegal, by the way) and have them refer you to an advocate who can explain to you how to document the harassment.

This is a police matter. You are not required to tell him that you've gone to the police, and it's often inadvisable anyway, as it can send a stalker into a rage. If they don't want to be bothered, insist that they tell you who DOES want to be bothered with crime PREVENTION, whether it's a city office, local nonprofit, or national coalition, so you can get some backup from people who are experienced and know exactly how the law can and can't serve you.

Love, Columbine

[Pawsitive Thinking]

If he constantly changes names on MSN, and you click on a new message....you should recognise that it's him in the first few words....yes ??? As soon as that happens, just block that name. I mean how long will he keep that up for ??? He will eventually go away.
Wom

Is that from experience Wom?

[Logan]

Jess, he can't add you to his MSN address book unless you allow him to. Deny him access if he gets a new name. That's a pretty simple solution. Block the names he has registered under before and don't allow him back in.

Stay safe.

Logan

[Catlady711]

He doesn't have any of my current phone numbers & when I block him from MSN he makes a new account.. I tried blocking him when he did the 60+ messages/day BS...

I'm assuming that you mean MSN Instant Messenger? If so then there is an option in there you can change so ANYONE who's not on your buddy list cannot see when you are online OR contact you.

If you mean email, and you like that email addy, then just try something like a different spelling or capitals etc. from kingrattus to something like KiNgrAtTus or Kingrattus25, etc. Or set up something so email not from ppl in your address book go to the bulk/spam folder, and just don't read those.

It depends on which is more important to you, having peace from your ex or keeping your email name.

[Cataholic]

Just ignore him. Don't respond, don't respond, don't respond. He will give up. I couldn't imagine calling the police over an issue like this.

On my IM program, if someone IMs me, and I don't respond, it just stays lit up at the bottom of my screen. Even if they IM me a million more times, it just keeps showing up down there. Who cares?

[king2005]

Its really hard to explain. I don't run windows, so i don't run the msn messenger program. I have another program that acts like msn messenger. On Windows (XP, '98, 2000, etc) there is 1 desktop. On Ubuntu (the type of Linux I'm using) I have 4-6 desktops running. What happeneds is that I'll be working in another desktop & everytime he sends me a new message it pops up & gets int he way.. I'll shoo the message away & moments later another will pop up... now getting this 60+ times a day gets really annoying. I also have sound on so I can get my messages & everytime someone sends me a message it beeps as me. + everyone who is messaging me under Kingrattus (I have 3 msn running at once + several other kinds, like ICQ,Yahoo, AOL...) it collects in the same window (its designed to use less ram & less desktop space, its quite nifty)...

So ignoring the messages & letting them collect isn't as easy as one would think. I have 300 users on my msn, so switching over would be a far worse, esp if I missed someone, YIKES...

I'm going to call someone in the 22 devision tonight & see what they say. I was kinda hoping there was something I could say that would make him loose interest & go away.

Maybe I'm being to sensitive casue this is the first guy I dumped & the first one that I hurt (as in dumping him... I did nothing wrong in the relationship). I've only dated 2 guys, Rob & Shawn. I didn't want to hurt Shawn, but gosh he abused substances like crazy & I tried to help & warned him what was going to happen. Blah....

[jackie]

Like everyone said, just ignore him, and he will get bored and go away.

Honestly, it doesn't sound like that big of a deal, an inconvenience maybe.

[king2005]

Like everyone said, just ignore him, and he will get bored and go away.

Honestly, it doesn't sound like that big of a deal, an inconvenience maybe.

I never tried to make it a big deal. Its just annoying as heck. I'm not scared of him or anything. There is nothing that he can do that I haven't already gone through, except pester me with his retardedness (not sure if thats even a word, but it is now lol)...
I just didn't want to hurt him, but I wanted him to go away at the sametime.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

If you reply to anything you will only encourage him to stay in touch. By ignoring him he will get the message......eventually