How Do I Get Mum To Lemme Buy A Puppy?!?!?!

[coco-bean]

I couldnt agree more with all that was said.
The only advice i can give other then what was already said is...ask your mom why? find out her reasons and maybe you two can come up with a comprimise! maybe she's allergic to fur or maybe she had a bad experience. "because i said so" really isnt a reason but if thats what she says then there really isnt much to do, but find a way to comprimise and maybe in the end you two can pick out the perfect dog together. Puppies are alot of work...i have 3.
especially right now is hard for me, my youngest has something wrong and the vet cant figure it out, there's 2 vets working my case and they may be sending me to a specialist if the final test come back negative tomorrow. There's alot of unexpected things that happen, im sure you've ruled out alot of things but unless you've had prior experience with vets im sure the average first timer doesnt know how much vet bills can really add up.
Im at the vet @ LEAST 4 times a month, im lucky if i get down to 2 or 3 times a month. Very pricy
best of luck, let us know what happens!!

[Freedom]

I couldnt agree more with all that was said.
The only advice i can give other then what was already said is...ask your mom why? find out her reasons and maybe you two can come up with a compromise! best of luck, let us know what happens!!

As I was reading, I also was wondering what the reasoning is. By learning why she has made this decision, it will help you - NOT is finding a work around necessarily, but learning what things she values, and that will help YOU make all sorts of decisions later on.

Meanwhile, please feel free to enjoy OUR pets! And maybe you can volunteer somewhere and walk dogs - at the vet's? So you get some one on one time with dogs. If you are at the vet's, then the dogs are healing and eventually going home. Where as, at a shelter, sometimes it ishard to say good by when they are at the end of their stay.

[Love That Collie]

Yes, find out her reasons, if you already don't know.
And I can speak from experience of being a mother for nearly 26 years,
"because I said so" IS a valid reason in "mom talk" and actually you live under your mothers roof and when you live under your own roof you can make those decisions for yourself. Your mother knows you better than we do, she has reasons behind it I suspect. And some people just are not "pet" people or even "dog people".

[pessimisaurus]

1st off I will say I agree 100% with everything everyone has already said- bottom line, its your moms house, she makes the rules. and if your mom has already been so relucant for so long, getting a dog with you yourself are not financially stable or independent is a horrible idea IMO. what if you are in a dorm and cant take the dog? what happens if you cant find/afford an apt that takes dogs? who will care for the dog when you are working & going to school full time? etc etc etc If you are not financially stable/independent yet, I would not recommend getting a dog (or any pet) unless you have a back up plan in the event you cannot care for it for any length of time- will your mom be willing to fully care for the dog for any length of time if/when you cannot?

but, I feel your pain! I grew up the exact same way. my parents (my mom especially) are not animal people at all, and even though Im the biggest dog lover I know, and have been since I was at least 9, I was never allowed to have a dog for all the reasons mentioned above. sure, you may mean well, and may have almost everything thought out, but the reality is its not your choice unfortunately. believe me I know it sucks! I didnt get my 1st dog until I was 19, and moved out 4 months later. then got my 2nd when I was 20, and now my 3rd now that Im 22 and in a house! Im also working as a dog trainer, and board dogs in my home all the time (currently I have 5 dogs in my house, on top of my own 3!) Ive worked as a vet assistant for almost 4 yrs, and volunteered at the humane society exercising and training the dogs for 2 years when I was 19. I like to think Im making up for the 1st 19 yrs of my life!

if I can recommend anything its to volunteer at a local shelter working with the dogs. that really changed my life. it gave me a ton of hands on experience with all kinds of dogs, and it helped me learn what I wanted in a dog. its also a great feeling to help a non profit and make a difference in the lives of homeless dogs. or you can see if there are any dog training facilities that take volunteers. doing that taught me a ton too, and its a lot of fun.

you will get a dog one day when the time is right! good luck

[Pawsitive Thinking]

My daughter (also 17) nagged us endlessly to get a dog - my husband was in favour but I was against the idea, not because I don't love dogs but because I do! I knew that our lifestyle at the time wasn't condusive to owning a dog and that for her the novelty would soon wear off when the dog got in the way of her social life..........

Unlike your Mom, I relented and they got Tobey - cue instant change to my routine as I was the only one able to take time out of work to walk him when everyone else was "too busy". Don't get me wrong, I adore that little dog, so much so that we got Archie to keep him company and I wouldn't be without either of them.

Last night Katie walked them with me and spent the entire time moaning about how awful it is having dogs and had she known how much work was involved she would never have asked for one (laughable in itself as she very rarely does anything with them!). She hates the barking when people come round, the jumping up at her friends, some times she has to curtail her plans if my hubby and I are away at football because I insist that Tobey and Archie are not left home alone all day and generally life was easier (for her) without them..................

What I would say to you is please, please, please give it some serious thought - you take on any dog and it is a lifelong responsibility. You are at the age when the last thing you want is to have to be tied to a routine and that is exactly what will happen.

As much as I love my boys a small part of me wishes I had been like your Mom and stood my ground.......but then again, I always wanted a dog when I was your age but had to wait until I was in my own home and considerably older before I got my wish

P.S. I was going to post this in general as a rant because I was so cross with her yesterday but the minute I saw this thread I saw a way of putting it to a better use

[pitc9]

Like someone else said, why not volunteer at a local shelter?
Walk the dogs, brush, feed... etc.
This way you'll have a VERY clear picture as to just how much work there is in having a dog. Plus you'll be able to learn about different breeds, and which ones would eventuly fit into your life the best.

[holi117]

Thanks to everybody who replied to my post thingy. I have taken on board the things that everybody has said, and thought I would reply to some of the questions that people asked... I wanted to get an Alaskan Malamute, they are adorable.. orginally i wanted a hsuky (have done since young) but decided that a Mal' would be better for me, as it has the same cute look that I love, but is smaller than a husky, is quieter, less hyperactive, great family home dogs etc...

I think my mums main reason is she thinks i will get bored of a dog. But all i think about is how i would cope, eg...set up a routine with it, walk before/ after college... my aunty could walk it one hte school run(takin ym lil bro n sis to and from school), my boyfriend and I both talked and were willing to share responsibilities should my mum seriously not want to be too involved in the care. And as for the question of what if my dog gets sick? I decided that i was going to take out a kind of pet insurance, say £20 a month or somethign like that to help cover the costs should the worst occure... I just want a companion to go walk around the park with, play with at home, something to occupy my time, which is otherwise spent being put to bad uses haha!

But as I said, I will take on everybody's advice and in all (upsetting) honesty, i doubt I'll ever get a dog of my own til im moved out (which lets face it, in london for 1st time buyers is gonna be flippin' difficult in intself!) haha

thanks again anyways.

Holly