Neither answer is the right one for me, really.


My two girls sometimes seem like they are having nightmares. Keisha more frequently, and seems much more upset. Cadet not so often, but still occasionally.

Whenever I hear either one whimpering a lot or crying or seeming to be distressed by their dreams, I do not rush over and wake them up. I do talk to them a bit in a very calm, low, quiet voice--- pretty much the same voice I use to soothe them when they seem unsettled or fearful when they are awake. It almost never wakes them up, but they seem much calmer even when they sleep through it.


ETA: None of mine have ever been fear-biters, but it still seems like a bad idea to head over and touch a sleeping, frightened, probably disoriented animal.