This is bugging me....

**buttercup132** · 01-08-2007, 02:29 PM

With all the "pressure" to be thin these days it makes me wonder why these girls would even think about having sex and risking getting pregnant because of having to loose all that extra weight and possibly have stretch marks.

**gemini9961** · 01-08-2007, 03:55 PM

Originally Posted by buttercup132

With all the "pressure" to be thin these days it makes me wonder why these girls would even think about having sex and risking getting pregnant because of having to loose all that extra weight and possibly have stretch marks.

I think the pressure to have sex and be part of that crowd might be a little stronger than the pressure to be thin. Even overweight people have sex.

**buttercup132** · 01-08-2007, 04:04 PM

LoL oh I guess I worded that wong I don't know how to explain what I'm trying to say then lol.

**Marigold2** · 01-21-2007, 11:44 PM

Yes, even overweight and old people have sex every once in a while. Or so I've heard

**sparks19** · 01-22-2007, 08:18 AM

Originally Posted by Marigold2

Yes, even overweight and old people have sex every once in a while. Or so I've heard

do you have a reliable source for this?

LOL

**RICHARD** · 01-22-2007, 06:28 PM

Originally Posted by sparks19

do you have a reliable source for this?

LOL

Rosie and Donald?

**kimlovescats** · 01-23-2007, 09:21 AM

Unfortunately, parents can make every effort to raise their kids in very parent-involved, loving, supportive, and moral based homes, but the children still choose to do otherwise. It is the lack of moral fiber in our world today. The media and general populaton has become so accepting of what should still be "wrong" that our children hardly stand a chance any more.

**jackmilliesmom** · 01-23-2007, 09:43 AM

It does not matter what influences are around them young people today are a law unto themselves. I have a neighbour who recently found her ten year old daughter having intercourse with a 13 year old boy while she was in the other room wiht the boy's mother.

When asked what they thought they were doing they said having sex why? the mother was floored and punished the daughter severely to which the young girl replied well if I do not do it here I will do it somewhere else! The mother has smacked this young girl in the face and grounded her and the young girl has called childline and told them she was being abused by her mother and father physically (beatings) and has now caused all sorts of trouble in teh home. She is an only child and has brought her parents to their knees in desperation.

So what you heard on teh radio is mild to what is actually going on. You need to wake up to it Richard - there is a way out for the children in this all the time. the other day while out grocery shopping a child threw a tantrum and the mother smacked the child on the hand and the child told her he was reporting her to childline and ran off to find a phone he was no more than 7.

Parents are at their wits end now there is too much emphises put on the childline and other charities that are there for the real abused children but some of these children are acting up to it and it should be put a stop to. As a child I would never dare defy my parents because I was always afraid of the consequences it would bring but not today they do it and there are no consequences because parents are afraid to smack the children when needed and also to correct them in any way as there are worse if not more consequences for the parents.

**kimlovescats** · 01-23-2007, 12:43 PM

You are so right, jackmilliesmom! It's getting to the point where the kids are the ones controlling the parents. What happened to "spare the rod, spoil the child"? While I do not believe in child abuse and excessive physical force, I think the old times of a good spanking made for much better disciplined children.

**Cataholic** · 01-23-2007, 01:46 PM

Originally Posted by jackmilliesmom

the mother was floored and punished the daughter severely to which the young girl replied well if I do not do it here I will do it somewhere else! The mother has smacked this young girl in the face and grounded her and the young girl has called childline and told them she was being abused by her mother and father physically (beatings) and has now caused all sorts of trouble in teh home. She is an only child and has brought her parents to their knees in desperation.

This paragraph shocks me. I can't imagine striking a child in the face. I think if this is the nature of the interactions between parent and child at 10, there are more problems than we know of. One doesn't just wake up one day, at age 10, and begin to act out in such a scary and damaging way. Nor does a parent wake up one day and decide to strike their child across the face.

I am really saddened by this. And, in the child's 'defense', often times there IS abuse in a household, and no one believes the child. Most people, abusing a child, do not self report. It isn't like the PARENT is going to say to childline, "yep, I beat my child".

**BOBS DAD** · 01-23-2007, 02:02 PM

I had that talk with all 3 of my children (well, let's say talks as it is a continuing, evolving process) - including my 2 girls. For whatever reason, my wife found it difficult and left the sex ed up to me. I started talking to them about all of this when they were as young as 7-8 years. About the time that they started noticing anatomical differences between us (wife and I) and themselves. I think that by starting these talks early on and keeping them age appropriate (simpler basic facts to start with) and adding more info (what swear words and generally inapopropriate terms mean) as they are ready and capable of handling it made it a lot easier for them to transition into adulthood without being traumatized or stigmatized by "not knowing" what was going on araound them.