Quote Originally Posted by lady_zana
There is no cause for all the rudeness we see nowaways. I understand what you mean by respecting someone more if they act like they enjoy it. I also think it would be good if the person simply said, "Thank you but I don't celebrate Christmas. But thank you for the thought. I appreciate it." Then they wouldn't have to accept the gift and you would know for the next year.

Lady Zana, while I agree with you, largely, I would make the statement, "Thank you! I appreciate your thoughtfulness". To me, there isn't a single reason why one should add anything else.

When I go to someone's house for dinner, and something is passed around that I don't care for, I say, "No, thank you". Not, "No thanks, I hate that".

I just don't understand people's rudeness, or need to tell the WHOLE story. But, I would add, I have never had someone treat me the way Richard had with the card. I guess I am lucky, and don't know those types of people! Or, if I did know them at one point in my life, I have weeded them out from my garden of friends.