Gosh how terribly sad, are you sure his family would not care, you might be suprised, even he might be, but i understand what you are saying, and you know sometimes wonderful close friends like you are to chad mean far more than family, you can't choose your family but you sure can your friends.

Is there a chance that the chemo has worked for Chad and he may go into remission with even a full recovery? I ask because i recently saw a programme on the telly ,that here in little ole NZ we have a discovered a new trial drug, new type of chemo, that is obviously in trial stages only and the results are just simply amazing, it blows you away, and lung cancer was one it had been trialed on, don't want to give anyone false hope, but i wonder if there is a chance Chad might be eligible for this drug, it would depend on how far on his cancer is I suppose, anyhow you are a great friend, and i know you will be there for him through thick and thin, i wish there were more people in the world just like you, what a better place it would be, HUGS to you both and I sure hope you can persuade him to get medical help. GOOD LUCK and all the best to both of you.