my charming daughter is engaged

[BC_MoM]

Yikes - I hope you work something out!

What a sticky situation.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Tricky but I hope you will be able to handle it for your daughter's sake and put your differences aside for her special day.

Have you bought your hat yet?

[jackmilliesmom]

and they are looking to set the date. I really like him.
The problem is, me and my ex can't be in the same room. I have a restraining order against him. How can we have a small wedding if we can't be in the same room. I know we both want to go... I told my daughter with my husband there, I would be fine. I just hope she doesn't elope. You legal people- how can we do this?

Hey BZM congrats to J and her man

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

Wishing you and your daughter a great day!!

[JenBKR]

First just wanted to say congrats to you and your daughter! I am not sure how it works in your state, but in PA a Protection From Abuse order (PFA) can ONLY be violated by the abuser. There is no need for you to drop it for one day (not that you would be able to do that anyway). You will be doing nothing wrong, and everything will be fine as long as he doesn't try anything. Even if he does, nothing can be done against you. I am sort of surprised your lawyer would suggest dropping the order, I would think that would not be an option. Keep the order going, go to the wedding, and have a good time!

[borzoimom]

Thank you. She promised me she would wait til I am well enough ( I just hope she does....) My parents assured me they would make sure the rest of my family remembers the purpose of the day. We went through this at her school graduation and college graduation also. But those were in public places, and we just stayed on opposite sides.
My brothers are pretty upset with him as you can imagine. I told my daughter that we are all going to be there for her and her fiance' and nothing else. My stepdaughter is my daughters age, so my husband is going to have a talk with her and his son about all this. I hate to admit this, but I am little nervous.

[cyber-sibes]

The problem is, me and my ex can't be in the same room. I have a restraining order against him. How can we have a small wedding if we can't be in the same room.

If she wants you both there, then you both should be. Hard as it may be for you or your ex, whatever your daughter wants should be honored. (maybe she doesn't even want him to come) Sounds like you have a little time before deciding what to do, no need to stress out now- God knows how it'll all turn out! Congratulations to your daughter!

[borzoimom]

I hope so cyber- I hope so...

[borzoimom]

OMG THEY SET THE DATE!!!! DECEMBER 1ST... man alive- what am I going to wear.. I dont care what my ex does, but I am flipping out... I KNEW IT, I KNEW IT I KNEW IT!!!! OMG MY BABY IS GETTING MARRIED OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!

[junescrater716]

I sent you a PM don't worry. JUST DO NOT WEAR WHITE!!!!

[critter crazy]

Congratulations Michelle!!!

[borzoimom]

Congratulations Michelle!!!

OMG MY BABY IS GETTING MARRIED!!!!!

[Husky15]

I sent you a PM don't worry. JUST DO NOT WEAR WHITE!!!!

Hahaha...

[trayi52]

Just stay as far away from your Ex-husband as possible, Michelle. That way you can enjoy the wedding. Congratulations, on your daughter getting married. That can be very exciting, I know, I remember when my oldest daughter got married. It was a very beautiful day.

Willie

[wolflady]

First, congrats to your daughter on her engagement and quickly approaching wedding! What a festive way to begin the holidays. I'm sorry I have no advice on the ex situation, but I agree with JenBKR: Keep the order going, go to the wedding, and have a good time!

**hugs**