my charming daughter is engaged

[JenBKR]

First just wanted to say congrats to you and your daughter! I am not sure how it works in your state, but in PA a Protection From Abuse order (PFA) can ONLY be violated by the abuser. There is no need for you to drop it for one day (not that you would be able to do that anyway). You will be doing nothing wrong, and everything will be fine as long as he doesn't try anything. Even if he does, nothing can be done against you. I am sort of surprised your lawyer would suggest dropping the order, I would think that would not be an option. Keep the order going, go to the wedding, and have a good time!

[borzoimom]

Thank you. She promised me she would wait til I am well enough ( I just hope she does....) My parents assured me they would make sure the rest of my family remembers the purpose of the day. We went through this at her school graduation and college graduation also. But those were in public places, and we just stayed on opposite sides.
My brothers are pretty upset with him as you can imagine. I told my daughter that we are all going to be there for her and her fiance' and nothing else. My stepdaughter is my daughters age, so my husband is going to have a talk with her and his son about all this. I hate to admit this, but I am little nervous.