Struggling

[trayi52]

Very well put, Poppy. Megan, this man has no business telling you about his sex life at all, or about his crummy marriage. Sounds like he is expecting more from you.

Please do be careful. You are so young, and he is so much older than you. Do watch they way you dress, I did not see the pictures, so I don't know.

I still respect you as much as ever, Megan, and care about you as much.

Willie

[ramanth]

Very well put, Staci, Vela, and Poppy.

When I was your age, I treated my boss like a trusted confidant (work, life in general, but never subjects as private as sex). However, we never hugged, and he never unloaded his problems onto me. It just wouldn't be right. He was a listening ear, nothing more. He'd give his advice and opinion to the best of his ability, and when it got to the point that he couldn't help, he recommended a councelor and I got the help I needed.

My situation was never like yours admittedly, but I believe everyone should have a confidant, professional or otherwise. But the role of a confidant is to just listen and give advice.

To me it's as if Butch is taking advantage of the situation. He's sharing stuff that he shouldn't. He should probably see a councelor himself. And like others have stated, it really gives the appearance that he expects something. I scratch your back, you scratch mine sort of mentality.

I always felt I could openly talk to my friends parents too, but if they started talking about sex and marital problems, I'd be little more than freaked out.

Just be safe....

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think a lot of you think he is talking to me about his sex life or sex in general. It's not like that, AT ALL.

I don't know. It's hard to explain to people what it's like. I swear to you all it is a friend, father-daughter relationship. Nothing more. He think I'm mature. I work for him. I'm his best friend's daughter. He talks to me about his problems because he knows I'll listen. That's all I'm here for, for him to vent. It's okay, I promise. Can we just not talk about this part anymore?

My mom actually spoke to me today. She acts like everything is fine, whatever. I'm going to sit down with her and have a talk. Soon.

Thanks for the good thoughts everyone. Please don't worry about the Butch situation anymore. I know what I'm doing. I would never let a married man get that close or let him do stuff like that. Trust me, okay?

[Sevaede]

I keep noticing references towards your life or "past"? I don't understand how that connects to this situation. Was there a similar situation?

Sorry, not trying to be mean. I am just a bit confuzzled.

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

I'm unsure as to what you mean... references about my past?

[Sevaede]

I'm unsure as to what you mean... references about my past?

Talking about your hard life, etc.

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

I don't know where I mentioned it, but yeah, it's been hard. I know that people have had it much worse than I, and I've got nothing to compare to some people. I at least have both of my parents and my dad's girlfriend, but my mother has been putting up a never-ending battle for the past 4 years. I am constantly stuck in the middle and both parents deny putting me there. My mother is just having a hard time and she makes it twice as bad on everyone else. There are threads upon threads on PT's archives that involve me crying over something she's done, said, or not done. Our relationship has really distanced since then.

[Vela]

I guess I missed something? I am not understanding where the anger is coming from towards Megan? What did she do any of you to make anyone angry? She obviously has issues that need to be dealt with by a professional, to help in coping with an emotionally difficult family life, etc., but I am not seeing how she "duped" anyone, or "tricked' anyone, or got anyone to do things for her that put them out in any way. How did she make fools out of people? I'm confused...I don't think bashing her and making her feel worse is going to help at all. No matter what, she obviously needs some support, even if you don't agree with her choices.

[K9soul]

Why are you so angry with Megan? Yes I see a danger in some of the choices she is making and it worries and concerns me. I don't want to see her hurt or taken advantage of. Getting angry isn't going to do anything but make her feel more alienated than she already does by adults in her life. I most certainly agree with advice and insight given here but getting angry and hurtful will not help anything and can make things worse. Further driving someone down who is already down on themselves only causes more problems and ultimately can lead to more destructive thinking and decisions.

[Ally Cat's Mommy]

Megan has a LOT to deal with, and IMHO the last thing she needs is to feel that she has lost our support.

It's just like with your OWN kids - you may not like everything they do, you may not agree with everything they do, you may not agree with the people they hang out with, but the bottom line is that they need UNCONDITIONAL love and support........

Meg, over the past few years you have grown up in our PT family, and we all know what difficult circumstances you have had to deal with at home.

I am not speaking on behalf of anyone else, but from me - Meg, please know that I worry about you, and I hope that things start to go a little bit more smoothly in your life. You have just turned 18 - it's an exciting time, but it's also a bit overwhelming. You have a lot to deal with, and I think that you have already handled MORE problems than anyone should be expected to.

I'm only a PM away if you want to talk!


(((HUGS)))

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

Boy have I learned a huge lesson from this crock of ****. Let it be said, I am NOT stereotyping any of the younger generation here. There are a lot of younger PT members that I highly respect and admire. But YOU ILoveMyAbbyGirl, are a piece of work. You have made fools out of many members of this board and should be ashamed of yourself. After reading this entire thread, I will NEVER believe or trust anything you say or do again. Am I angry? **** right. Fool me one, you should be ashamed, fool me twice I should be ashamed. My advice to you is to get some serious help, as you definitely need it.

Staci,

Thanks for setting the record straight.

I honestly have no idea why you are so angry with me, but to be honest, it hurt my feelings and almost made me cry. You were one of those people that I looked up to and all of a sudden I'm a piece of work and I can't be trusted? What on EARTH did I do wrong to deserve no respect from you??


Thanks to the rest of you for your support. I am trying to seek help, and with a full schedule at work and school, it's not coming along quickly. Please let it be known that I am going to get help as soon as I can. Thanks for the thoughts.