Describe and list ACTIONS - not the PERSON.

What she DID and DOES, not who she IS.

Takes the personal stuff out, and is still accurate.

As for the "behind the scenes" stuff - hard to prove - just preface that list with "It has come to our attention" or "It has been reported that".

Think of this as doing her a big favour. She may honestly not be aware. This is HELPING her to maybe change - which will help everyone else.

You're being part of the solution by doing this. Everyone is.

HUGS