Zipper

[My Peanuts]

Why now is the grieving so fresh? As funny and delightful as Mack is, and I love my Golden Girls so much, I am having one of those episodes of grief over Zipper and Mimi. I guess the loss of Murphy was easier to take for me, but I miss her every day, too.

Darn it...........What a darling, precious boy he was. I want him back........

I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes when I think about Angie I smile and sometimes I ball my eyes out. She's been gone over 3 years and sometimes it feels like it just happened. Hang in there. Soon the grieving will be less and less. Then the times when you think about Zipper and smile will be more and more.

[Cataholic]

Why? What a question. It seems that no reason at all can make a day a particularly bad day. And, another day, an okay one. The wound is so fresh, Logan. And, I can only hope that more time will bring back happier memories, and while I want to say one day it will be only with fondness, I am not sure that is true. Maybe the pain today is to serve some greater purpose. Hugs to you.

[Sudilar]

Well, Logan, I had the same problem with the loss of my Shiloh. I did not want a new dog....ever again..... I just wanted Shiloh back. Maybe because I lost her so unexpectedly and I counted on her to be with me longer.

Some days are harder. Of course, you love the others...but they are all different. Go give the others a big hug. It will help. And if you need to cry a little.....their fur absorbs tears, too. Zipper and Mimi are watching over you and waiting...
Big hugs to you.

[Logan]

Thank you, friends.

I am better. Not great, but better. Scott and I were watching the daily wrestling match over the weekend with Honey, Lilly and Mack participating and I was able to talk about precious Zipper trying to joining in and running back to his mom for reassurance. I'm not sure I'll ever get over the loss of the precious Zip, but the others sure do help.

Sue, I would encourage you to indulge in another dog, either rescue or a puppy....in the words of my good friend, Curt Haag, who pulled Zipper from the pound, all those years ago....He wrote this to me, right after I lost Zipper

It is so amazing - I have the hardest time remembering peoples' names, but the Goldens........
I vividly remember the day I picked him and brought him down to Greenville. He wasn't about to accept being relegated to the back seat of my car. That was the day I learned how to left-hand shift my 5-speed transmission while attempting to restrain Zipper from joinging me in front by using my right hand.
He's in good company, and I envy him in many ways.
Upon losing my first Golden almost 5 years ago and sharing my profound grief with friends back in Colorado, one dear friend replied with such special thoughts that I never had to write them down - they're carried in my heart (almost vebatim) to this day (and to the end of days). She Said,
"You couldn't feel such grief and devastation unless there had first been a tremendous love betwen you;
And you'll never, ever find any other dog that will fill "that aching hole in your heart," but you will find another who will make a very special place of his very own in your heart;
And you shouldn't just wait for all that you're feeling to slowly fade away, but honor the memory of you departed best friend by going right out and bringing another dog into your home and heart. And the first night you have your new dog home you'll be down on the floor, kneeling with your new guy, hugging him with grat heaving sobs and tears streaming dsown your cheeks as you remember the dog you've lost. And your new guy won't understand the tears - but he'll happily lick them away."
God Bless.
Curt Haag

[shais_mom]

Those words ring so true Logan that your friend and his friend said.
Shaianne was my first dog that I could call own and I expected her to be with me thru marriage and my first child. It wasn't meant to be b/c she isn't here and neither has happened yet. As much as I wish she were and I miss her especially this time of the year - there is a space in my heart for her- and I never thought I would love another dog again, I have my Keegan who has worked her own way into my soul like Shaianne did but each are in my heart in their own special way and neither can replace the other.
If love kept us alive none of us would ever die.

continued hugs to you

[delidog]

Dearest Logan
I am Sooo Sorry to hear of Zippers' Passing
My Heart goes Out to You & Yours!!!
I Know that You Did the "Right" Thing
That Does Not Make it Any Easier!!!!!

Godspeed Dear Zipper
Scrubber & Ms.Puss Will Welcome You at The Rainbow Bridge!!!

[Sudilar]

Sue, I would encourage you to indulge in another dog, either rescue or a puppy....

Yes, Logan, I did adopt my foster, Thor. He is not Shiloh, but he is THOR .
My very wise fellow rescuers "made me" foster Thor. Ohhhh.....the poor boy is stuck in a kennel at the vet for months....we need to move him out of there.....we have another dog to make room for......he is dog aggressive....everyone else has a dog.........etc.
It worked. He took over my heart as soon as I laid eyes on him!

Hugs to you.

[Logan]

One year ago, tomorrow, a very precious boy left us. The pain of his loss has dulled a little, but I will always miss him. Scott and I are able to freely talk about him and about Murphy, with smiles, these days. Tears still come, but we are more accepting of what life has handed to us. He IS an angel and I hope that he and Lilly and Murphy and Mimi are together. I just hope they are happy and don't grieve the way we do. We certainly do miss them all. Life is just not the same.

[K9karen]

Geesh, Logan, it feels like yesterday. He sure was a special one. I'll never forget him either!

[dukedogsmom]

I know exactly how you feel. I'm sorry for the sad anniversary. I know I'll never be the same, either. All we can do is go one day at a time. And some of those days are so very hard.