What is the deal?

[ashleycat]

I don't even look at who's posting. But sometimes there will be days where I haven't been here.

[areias]

I understand what your saying, but like everyone said sometimes it's hard to reply when you are on a time limit. If it is an urgent situation, most people will reply right away if they have any advice.

Also, sometimes I don't reply (not to you, by any means, no one specific) because sometimes people ask questions that they already know the answer to. When you try to be helpful they won't just take the advice and say thank you, they will argue with why it won't work. That bothers me to no end.

[Lizzie]

I know what you are talking about but I tend to blame myself for posting something boring or long-winded. I was upset for a little while after I read some posts in a thread that came up a few months ago, can't remember the title, but some old-timers did say they didn't respond to new members. I thought for a few days that I'd just leave the forum and let them revel in their homey atmosphere. Instead, I decided to give myself a role here, that of a newbie responding to other newbie threads - as long as they caught my interest and I had something relevant to say. For instance, I didn't want to see the thread about cats needing help in Bellafonte, PA to disappear and so I've kept posting on it, as has Catty1. It's the kind of topic I find very interesting and I want new member Melissa to feel welcomed and supported.

[Lady's Human]

Some of us very simply don't reply if we don't have anything to add. I read a lot of threads here, but don't post in that many. I just don't think posting to show I read the thread is very important.

[Sevaede]

I know what you are talking about but I tend to blame myself for posting something boring or long-winded. I was upset for a little while after I read some posts in a thread that came up a few months ago, can't remember the title, but some old-timers did say they didn't respond to new members. I thought for a few days that I'd just leave the forum and let them revel in their homey atmosphere. Instead, I decided to give myself a role here, that of a newbie responding to other newbie threads - as long as they caught my interest and I had something relevant to say. For instance, I didn't want to see the thread about cats needing help in Bellafonte, PA to disappear and so I've kept posting on it, as has Catty1. It's the kind of topic I find very interesting and I want new member Melissa to feel welcomed and supported.

Indeed!

So, maybe I should give my crew a snazzy name and set up a cozy spot here? Hmm... How about... Babys babies? Heh, my 20 month old niece, Grace, can say Mama, Mamaw, Dada, Papaw, Uncle Troy, but NOT Aunt Angelique! So, she just calls me Baby.

Hmm. IDEAS!

[Miss Z]

Angelique,

I know exactly what you are saying, and have known about it since my first few weeks of Pet Talk. I know that now I get far more response to my posts now than I did when I had only been here a month or two, even though my style of question was generally no different. In a way though, I do not condemn this. People on this board build friendships with other members, and often when a friend posts on a topic, you often feel inclined to post. There is no shame in that. But everyone should give everyone a chance, that way perhaps you will make more friendships! For instance, I remember all the PTers that replied on Zsa-Zsa's thread when she was COTD, so that response really makes an impact.

Just IMO

[BOBS DAD]

Angelique,

I know exactly what you are saying, and have known about it since my first few weeks of Pet Talk. I know that now I get far more response to my posts now than I did when I had only been here a month or two, even though my style of question was generally no different. In a way though, I do not condemn this. People on this board build friendships with other members, and often when a friend posts on a topic, you often feel inclined to post. There is no shame in that. But everyone should give everyone a chance, that way perhaps you will make more friendships! For instance, I remember all the PTers that replied on Zsa-Zsa's thread when she was COTD, so that response really makes an impact.

Just IMO

Miss Z is "like" the most mature 14 year old in the entire universe!!!


Seriously, everytime I read one of her posts I tell myself, "that can't be real" - "she can't really be 14". She just sounds too mature and articulate. I think you are really a 45 year old woman living in a 14 year old's body.

When I was 14, I was "like ahh, ahhh... like dude", making fart noises under my armpit and knocking on people's doors and running when they came to answer (good times) - not writing well constructed letters to associate/friends with common interests!!! Heck, I couldn't even find England, Australia, New Zealand (just a few of our Ptrs homes) on a map!!!

[Sevaede]

Very eloquently put, Miss Z! Very true. I've been contemplating possibly sending a nomination in for Soni or Isis to be COTD or Spanky to be DOTD, maybe that would do the trick? I would like to make friends but I suppose that, like everything else, in time, will work itself out.

Heh, Bobs dad, indeed. I feel like I'm a lot smarter in my own head. I have a problem communicating my thoughts or, rather, getting them to spill out the same way they formulated in my head.

[Miss Z]

Miss Z is "like" the most mature 14 year old in the entire universe!!!


Seriously, everytime I read one of her posts I tell myself, "that can't be real" - "she can't really be 14". She just sounds too mature and articulate. I think you are really a 45 year old woman living in a 14 year old's body.

When I was 14, I was "like ahh, ahhh... like dude", making fart noises under my armpit and knocking on people's doors and running when they came to answer (good times) - not writing well constructed letters to associate/friends with common interests!!! Heck, I couldn't even find England, Australia, New Zealand (just a few of our Ptrs homes) on a map!!!

Ha ha ha! How did you find out that all this time I've been lying and I'm really a 45-year-old highly revered politician who studied English language and literature at Oxford university for 5 years??? Joke, joke

And thank you for the compliment *beams*

See everyone how easy it is to make friends!

[Alysser]

Miss Z is "like" the most mature 14 year old in the entire universe!!!

I agree with this so much! I seriously think she is lying to us about her age. Zara, you always use big words I've probably never heard of and seem to have so much knowledge.

Anyway, back to the topic of this thread. I seriously don't even have time to reply to most posts anymore. Sometimes I have all day, But now, most of the time, I have less then fifteen minutes, so I only reply to the posts I find nessacary for me to reply to. If someone is asking for help and I don't know how to help, I don't reply because I have nothing to contribute and to help the person/animal involved. This does not mean nobody likes you, because you are a wonderful member to the board and I'm glad you joined.

[Oggyflute]

Miss Z is "like" the most mature 14 year old in the entire universe!!!


Seriously, everytime I read one of her posts I tell myself, "that can't be real" - "she can't really be 14". She just sounds too mature and articulate. I think you are really a 45 year old woman living in a 14 year old's body.

When I was 14, I was "like ahh, ahhh... like dude", making fart noises under my armpit and knocking on people's doors and running when they came to answer (good times) - not writing well constructed letters to associate/friends with common interests!!! Heck, I couldn't even find England, Australia, New Zealand (just a few of our Ptrs homes) on a map!!!

You really make me laugh Bob's dad.
This forum is fun everyone. It's the reason no matter how busy I am now, I always come back here to smile.

[Cataholic]

I was upset for a little while after I read some posts in a thread that came up a few months ago, can't remember the title, but some old-timers did say they didn't respond to new members.

Lizzie, I would really like to see that thread you are referencing. I find that sort of comment from 'old-timers' quite surprising. I count myself among the semi old-timers, and can't think of anyone that I *know* that would have such an attitude, much less display it. So, I would like to see it, if you can find it, and see if perhaps it wasn't misunderstood. I didn't see it, so, I cannot say much (but, why do I go on and on, you might ask?), but, I am sitting here thinking, "surely she took that out of context".

Thanks.

[Lady's Human]

IIRC, in the thread you are referring to someone mentioned that they didn't take the advice of a newcomer as readily as they would take advice from someone who has been here a while.

[Sevaede]

I understand what your saying, but like everyone said sometimes it's hard to reply when you are on a time limit. If it is an urgent situation, most people will reply right away if they have any advice.

Also, sometimes I don't reply (not to you, by any means, no one specific) because sometimes people ask questions that they already know the answer to. When you try to be helpful they won't just take the advice and say thank you, they will argue with why it won't work. That bothers me to no end.

Oh, I understand.

I love to help out whenever I can but it becomes frustrating when you attempt to do something and then they kind of second guess you.