Gayle hon i think it is time to put yourself first and really ask yourself why you want to hang on to this relationship so much, I can only go by what you are telling us and your last post really worried me, the fact you are letting him take you and the kids in the car when he has been drinking, please don't let him to that to you, you are worth way more than that,he has no right to risk your life and others period.

If he is not prepared to take any responsibility for his part in this relationship folding then you are beating your head against a brick wall,until then honestly from what you say you are better off without him, but then that is easy for me to say, I am not you or in your shoes, i just want you to know that i really do feel for you and the situation you are in,only you can make the decision where to go from here, I wish you all the best and the courage you need to make the right decision for you.,but truthfully Gayle if any man spat in my face he would have been long gone, no-one has the right to abuse you that way.

Take care Hon and again all the best .