Looks as if Alexander flies to Az .We LOST.I think? Not as bad news as first thought!

**Catty1** · 07-29-2006, 01:25 PM

Did Gary give you ANY indication whether to be hopeful?

I know he can't lead you on.

Maybe tell dear Alex that when you see him again, you're going out for ice cream!

That way, you don't have to say "see you soon". I think you WILL - but you know how stupid the legal system can be!

Sounds like Gary is a good guy...

HUGS! and prayers

**Dorothy39** · 07-29-2006, 01:32 PM

Originally Posted by Catty1

Did Gary give you ANY indication whether to be hopeful?

I know he can't lead you on.

Maybe tell dear Alex that when you see him again, you're going out for ice cream!

That way, you don't have to say "see you soon". I think you WILL - but you know how stupid the legal system can be!

Sounds like Gary is a good guy...

HUGS! and prayers

That is fitting for this occasion, and rightly put Catty1!!! Yes, Let's plan on ice cream afterwards!!!!!!!!!!!!

**Catty1** · 07-29-2006, 01:33 PM

But...sorry....has Gary said ANYTHING? or not?

**cyber-sibes** · 07-29-2006, 01:39 PM

We will be praying for Alex.
(((hugs))) to you, stay strong.

**DrKym** · 07-29-2006, 01:44 PM

Gary is very hopeful, he spoke with the judge yesterday and the way it was put to us was simply " I refuse to allow this child to go back to a granola crunching nutjob " to quote Gary so he has amended the Joint papers to read Sole only and the Judge advised him that for him to rule in good conscious he will need to see the boy for himself (as the mother is now trying to block his appearance even though SHE requested it) Alex will get an official weigh in on Monday morning and take that paperwork from the Pediatricians office documenting his weight gain in a month here vs his gain in a year there. My mother in law is flying out for the court date so that Alex has someone to sit with as Gary refuses to allow him in the courtroom proper.

**Catty1** · 07-29-2006, 01:50 PM

OH GOOD - Grandma will be with him!

Sounds like the judge just has to abide by formalities...the rules...

Hugs and prayers. Am SO glad Gary will not have him in the courtroom.

Does Alex have to say anything? Will they videotape it?

HUGS

**Dorothy39** · 07-29-2006, 01:58 PM

I am just reading the posts. --waiting for replies.

**DrKym** · 07-29-2006, 02:03 PM

Candace both good questions, truth is we don't know if he will be questioned per se I am sure the Judge will ask a few questions in reference to how he likes it here, how he likes his brother etc. as to the videotaping I have no Idea but thanks for the Question I will ask Gary when I speak with him tomorrow. We are trying to figure out how to tell Alex that he is flying back, without telling him everything, we need to prepare him for the Judge but I don't want him scared either (no matter how awful she is I am sure he still loves his Mum) so we cannot say oh it is so you never get to see her again(which it will be as the next step in this my adoption of him severing her parental rights as she refuses to get help or acknowledge she has a problem)

**Dorothy39** · 07-29-2006, 02:11 PM

OK, Say Dorothy39

**Catty1** · 07-29-2006, 02:13 PM

Gary might have the best advice on what to tell Alex, or how.

as she refuses to get help or acknowledge she has a problem)

Just off the top of my head...which isn't always good!

- something along these lines might work: "Your mommy loves you very much, but right now she is very sick. When she gets better, then that's a good time to visit. The judge knows the doctors who will make her better - so let's hope she goes to see her doctors, okay?"

Clumsy, but maybe you get the idea?

And if he DOES get to write her, he can say 'when are you going to the doctors so I can see you?' (okay, evil of me!

)

hugs