I don't like to offer advice in situations like this, but I honestly don't see counseling as any sort of help. He seems abusive emotionally, rude, and inconsiderate, and unless he is going to do a 180 in his attitude, I don't see a lot for your future with him. I feel really bad saying anything like that but just from what you have said that is how it appears. I wish you the best of luck, I'm sure it's very difficult, but you need to think about you too, not him. He obvoiusly isn't thinking about you and yoru feelings in this at all, so try to take care of yourself the best you can.