Jess - I would guess you had expectations of how he would react at the meeting.

HOPE is one thing - EXPECTATIONS can be killers. We all do it - have a little script of expectations in our minds. "He/She/They should..."

You can carry the message but not the body. He knows what he has to do.

Get yourself to Al-Anon; you can't have him and his situation renting space in your head. And you'll be better help to him and others if you get support for YOURSELF.

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Catty1