King2005, I agree with everyone, especially Catty1, Vela, & Redhedd about Alcoholics Anonymous and Al-Anon!!!!!!!
Great organisations. I atteneded Al-Anon in the past. It was one of the most helpful groups I've ever attended. Also my sister still attends and feels it is invaluable.
The Big Book is also a great resource that A.A. uses.
Here is a link: Big Book
You can read or listen to it online. A little everyday, one day at a time. I wish you and Shawn well!!! Zoey