My son is leaving.....

[finn's mom]

and Kari believe it or not it is a grieving process of a kind

Your day will come oneday when you have children of your own,it is inevitable, it must be harder for your mother as you are further away i think than Scott will be

even though she is not especially fond of cats, one big drawback,

Feel free to send me your mothers email address if she would like to chat, more than happy to

Oh, I know it's a grieving process, it is for me, too. My mother is my best friend, even though, because we are so close and SO much alike, we do get on eachother's nerves. We have talked every day since I moved out here, and, I am happy for that.

I know I'll have children one day and have to go through the process of letting them leave the nest. I'm looking forward to it because it will hopefully mean that I've done a good job and that they're ready for it! And, yeah, I'm sixteen hours away from my mom and dad, I'd kill to be two hours away! I hope he's able to visit as often as he's wanting to.

And, that's funny...David's not too fond of cats, either. It is a drawback for me, too, although I don't have cats, now. I wanted them again. But, he loves his dogs so much that I may just be able to live without cats. Probably not.

And, you are sweet...I am surprised you would take me up on that offer to chat with my mom, and, I don't know how truly email savvy she really is, hahahaha, but, I will let her know she may have a new pal! I wish I could give you both hugs right now!

[Mo Mo's Mum]

Hi Carole

Just a wee word of Comfort from a fellow Kiwi bird I am at the other end of the spectrum I live in CHCH ( Christchurch in case people wanted to know) and my parents have just moved to Wanaka not too far I admit only 4 or so hours but comming from a close family it has been a bit of a wrench

I am sure it will work out well for your son and family but can understand the feeling of loss keep smiling and Kia Kaha

I understand that 2 hours to those in larger countries can seem a small ammout but that here it can be massive especially if you consider that only 20% of our roads are sealed but remeber our no 8 fencing wire and Man alone spirit if Sir Ed can knock the bastard off you can make it to Auckland ! as we are fond of saying Sweet As, not a problem Mate !

Just to let you in on a wee secret from the " Kid " perspective the ties stay as strong as ever so don't worry about that but as a supposed adult ( am 30 in less than 2 months) you don't like to admit that you miss your Mum and Dad and shed a few homesick tears about it and miss all the stuff that only Mum can do for you ! the food, caring for you as only Mum can and knowing what you should do no matter how old you get ( although we may not admit it at the time) and did I mention the home cooked meals nothing quite like it really

Your new prospective " Out Law" as they are called in my family sounds lovely ! I am sure she is looking forward to having a Mum figure/friend again

Let us know how they are getting on

Sarah

[carole]

Thank you everyone i got a real kick out of reading your replies, Bobs Dad, Kari and Mo Mo's mum, especially,I just found out his girlfriend Amber will be going to South Africa for a week in December , she will be visiting her mothers grave for the first time and meeting her family, her mother died of cancer when Amber was only nine years old, this is something she expressed to me in an email how much she wanted to go there, so she will be so excited, and all expenses paid trip to with her sister and uncle.

Guess my boy can always come home for a week, see every cloud has a silver lining he he.

It's all good, even though i will miss him, i feel excited for him as well, it really is a new stage in his life isn't it