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[Lori Jordan]

She is just having a tougher time than most she was talking to Alyse the night of they always called eachother at nine or so to say good night and Becca says she called and sounded fine she said she did not sound bubbly like she always does but she told Becca her and her mom has a fight and she said she would be fine and would see Becca on the bus in the morning and that was the last she spoke to her....I think that is what Becca is having such a hard time with at the moment she says to me this morning "Mama i did not get to tell her i loved her and never got to say good bye" its heartbreaking

[Lobodeb]

Poor baby. Like I said, suicide is so ugly and painful. The survivors are left with so many "what if's" and "if I'd only..." etc.

What Becca needs to know, is that even if Alise gave some sort of indication that things weren't right, and Becca didn't pick up on it, then Becca's left feeling guilty, like she could have helped, or prevented it. If she had said good-bye, there's always something left that she should have or could have said. Please tell her that this is all totally normal for her to feel this way. It hurts like the dickens, but it's normal.

As Gini said, you're doing the best you can by just being there for her. Just listen to her. Let her rant and rave and cry and scream. Don't feel you have to answer her questions, because they'll probably never be answered. She needs to be able to talk to someone.

Hugs to you and Becca.

[slick]

I've come back to this thread a thousand times intending on posting some encouraging thoughts, but how can I? I've never been a mother, I've never had to deal with suicide and I've certainly never had a friend who has passed.

All I can offer up is lots of prayers for you Lori, Becca, Alyse and her family and friends. I can only imagine the pain you all going through.

RIP Alyse. You did what you had to do at the moment.

No tears in heaven.

[Alysser]

I'm so sorry your daughter is experiencing this situation. I'm speechless...RIP Alyse. *HUGS and prayers to poor Becca.*