Quote Originally Posted by catnapper
Jen, depends on who you ask. I have not seen him do one thing or give one thing for the baby. Its one thing I told her that bothers me - that he hasn't given her even one rattle or bib. Maybe we're not giving him enough credit since he's not very expressive when he's here; I'll have to go by what Ashley says about him......

Ashley on the other hand says he gets insulted and feels left out of all the baby stuff. She says he wants to be a part of it and got very hurt on Sunday at the shower when everyone was oohhhing and aahhhing over her and the baby, and basically ignored him.
That's good that he says wants to be there (sometimes hard to tell unless you actually hear it from him firsthand, I know what you mean). That is such a hard decision. Maybe this is a dumb question, but is it possible to change the last name at some point? Like if she decided to use his last name, then in a few years he split and she never heard from him again and she decided that she wanted her child to have her last name. I'm not saying that I think it would happen, just curious if you can even legally do that.