I think it's over.

[flamepony12]

Sounds like it is time, sadly, to move on. It doesn't seem like you did anything "wrong," per se, just that he's not interested in maintaining any relationship right now. This may have nothing to do with you, just to do with himself.

I agree.. I'm sorry Meg. I really hope things work out. ((((HUGS))))

[Laura's Babies]

Ever heard of that book "He's Really Not That Into You?".. Sounds like he is just keeping you on that back burner.

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

Yep.

He left me a message on AIM while I had my away message up that said, "hey, i think we should see other people, nothing personal".

I'm torn, my head is saying, "Thank GOD, I don't have to worry about that loser anymore!" and my heart is saying, "What'd I do wrong? What'd I do to deserve this? Why did he call me beautiful and tell me he loves me and then DITCH me for "other people"?"

Whatever. I'm sad but I'm sure I'll get over it. I'm angry more than anything. But I know that once I post this and I see his picture in my signature I'll get LES. It's not fair. I love him as a person. He's funny, he makes me smile... we enjoyed our time with each other... I TOLD you the thing in his profile wasn't about me.

I give up.

[Glacier]

I'm sorry that you feel badly now, but seriously you deserve someone who will treat you better than that! Breaking up via instant messenger is just tacky and heartless. You deserve more than that, even at the end of things! Someday (probably not too far off) you meet someone new and wonder what you ever saw in this guy!

[buckner]

Megan, you're way better off without him. I mean, think about it - he left you a message on AIM saying he wanted to break up. What the? What a cop-out way. Online, for one. And leaving you a MESSAGE? Two wrongs, plus never even talking to you about it after. You're better off without this loser.

Take him off of your signature and forget about him. If he wasn't a nice guy during the relationship, forget about ever being friends, seriously. You don't need to associate yourself with him.

I know you're hurting right now, but you'll see.. you deserve so much better. You're young, you've got plenty of time to find another guy you love and who loves you back, with all of who he is.

[carole]

Megan YOU did not do anything wrong, now just remember that, I know it hurts honey, but you are only young and believe mike will be history in your mind in no time, plenty more fish in the sea , especially for a beautiful young lady like yourself, still i know it is hard for you, as you seemed so happy and enjoyed his company, just be glad things did not go further and then you found out he was a jerk, I know you cannot see it now, but maybe it is for the best, you deserve only the best Megan, hang on in there sweetie, your knight in shining armour is awaiting believe me, HUGS.

[AbbyMom]

What else can I DO? What am I doing wrong?

There's nothing you can do. You did nothing wrong. Everything is normal. This is the unfortunate truth of courtship. You have just discovered that you were attracted to someone who, well, just didn't treat you very well IMO. Now you know what to look for...someone who is more honest and considerate.

Probably some day, you too will want to break up with someone. It happens. And now you know how NOT to do it. Sometimes people do have to hurt each other, but they don't have to make it worse than necessary.

I know you're hurting now, but I promise that it will go away. Hopefully, it will go away because you've found someone who will treat you right. You deserve it.



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[Cataholic]

The way people act is a reflection on THEM, not on you. I remember breaking up with someone, and having all these people say, "you are young, you will find someone else, you deserve better...blah blah blah" and thinking, "you guys have no idea what you are talking about. I liked him so much, blah blah blah".

People say these things because they DO know better, or more, or have more experience. I know you hurt, who wouldn't? He really treated you poorly, and that hurts! It should hurt, as it shows YOU have feelings. He apparently was lacking in them, along with class, taste and compassion.

As hard as it is, move on fast, act like you don't care. Soon enough, the acting will seem real, and the next thing you know, you will be fine!!! And smarter for the experience. I don't imagine you would let your next boyfriend treat you so poorly, would you?

Good luck.

[gini]

You are getting such good advice here and compassion.

I want to add just one thing HOLD YOUR HEAD UP HIGH!

Thank goodness you found out what a jerk he is so soon.
Lead your life by YOUR standards - not his.