After Wedding Attire - looking for opinions

[ramanth]

HA! We get called Kimandy by friends quite a bit. That could work too.

[king2005]

I know I wasn't married, but I was never called so & so girlfriend.. I always heard & this is so & so girlfriend & then they'd ask my name if they didn't know my name.. or I'd be introduced this is so & so & Jess.. or as our good friends called me The Jess & I have no idea why.. but I've always liked being called The Jess hehe

[Edwina's Secretary]

Don did not take my last name when we married so perhaps I am not allowed an opinion but.....

Mrs. Kim Miller indicates you are divorced from Mr. Miller.

You are all free to argue with this rule. I didn't make it up.

The only time I will acknowledge my husband's last name in relation to me is as Mrs. Donald Scare in some sort of formal invitation way. I am never, ever Sara Scare. (Okay....my mother-in-law send me cards with that name but for her I make an exception.... )

So, if I were you, Kim, and making this choice...I would go with either Mrs. Andrew Miller or Kimberly Miller (omitting the title...)

[Karen]

I think it's a generational thing. People told me, when I got married, that having my name as Mrs. Karen Watts would make people think I was divorced. I always sign as Karen Watts, but if I have to, I'll put Mrs. Karen Watts. Still married to him, but no one ever calls me Mrs. Paul Watts. And I still think of Mrs. Watts as my mom-in-law, I'm used to people saying Miz Watts, which is fine.

[Cinder & Smoke]

People told me, when I got married, that
having my name as Mrs. Karen Watts would make people think I was divorced.

Hmmmm ... Never knew that!

LOTTA folks I know - who certainly are NOT divorced - use the
"Mrs. [Woman's First Name] [Husband's Last Name]"
and think nothing is odd.

I've never heard that this form of address indicated the woman was divorced.
Dumm me!

[Edwina's Secretary]

Hmmmm ... Never knew that!

LOTTA folks I know - who certainly are NOT divorced - use the
"Mrs. [Woman's First Name] [Husband's Last Name]"
and think nothing is odd.

I've never heard that this form of address indicated the woman was divorced.
Dumm me!

It has a certain logic to it....if a woman -- Jane Doe -- has changed her name when she marries....she has become Mrs. John Moe or Jane Moe. The children are Tim and Sue Moe. Now if Jane and John divorce....she is no longer Mrs. John Moe....which if he remarries could be someone else.

However....to avoid the inconvenience and expense of a name change and to have the same last name as her children (and to indicate she was married to the father of her children) she is Mrs. Jane Moe. Also this avoids confusion with the new Mrs. John Moe.

It really makes it easier for others to understand relationships quicky when a convention is followed.

[Samantha Puppy]

I like etiquette and all that, but I hate being called Mrs. Joshua Patterson if it isn't a formal occasion. On wedding invites, fine. But for birthday cards or whatever, I'm still me! Jaime! So unless you'll be wearing the shirt to a black-tie event or something, go with Kimberly Miller.