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    Although I am a teacher, I grew up among farms (right next to the family farm and in the barn half the time). Cats were respected working members of the operation. The animals were usually tended by my mom, gram or me. (We didn't go to the doctor either unless it was life threatening.) So please be careful not to lump farmers and country people into one catagory...

    Your father-in-law is a jerk. It is possible he says this stuff to get a reaction...something emotionally sadistic people often do... and would not actually do it. I had an uncle who used to say stuff like that. I used to remind him I knew way more about herbs than he did and if any of my animal friends went missing I might just make him something special... (I probably wouldn't have used anything lethal, but he wasn't sure and it did stop the comments.) Now my other uncles used to bring me orphaned bunnies (cutting hay is inevitably a problem) to raise and set free in the swamp where no one hunted.

    I hope you get to move soon. Living in stress is awful.

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    Sadly there are many people in this world exactly like your FIL, he is not alone, to me these people are missing out on so much in their life, I think it would only take them to have an animal that showed so much love back to them to turn their minds around, but it does not always happen.

    I don't think Lori Jordan meant any harm by what she said, i think what she may have been trying to say is that part of farming indeed can be cruel, i was raised on a farm so i know,but yes we should not tar everyone with the same brush, young or old, farmer or not,there are people in every race,creed,profession etc who share your FIL attitude,as sad as it is, we as animal lovers can only hope we can influence them and make sure that there are laws to protect animals and that they are abided by.

    Good luck with adopting the other kitty, and i hope you can move out soon, as gosh it must be unbearable living under the same roof as him especially with his arrogance.,you both have my empathy.
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    So sorry! People don't always realize what things are meaningful to others. I've admittedly made remarks that I thought were funny, only to think later "why in the world did I say that?" I pray your kitties are safe, and that you get to move very soon!
    Doing my part to save BBD's, one dog at a time!

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    Quote Originally Posted by carole
    Sadly there are many people in this world exactly like your FIL, he is not alone, to me these people are missing out on so much in their life, I think it would only take them to have an animal that showed so much love back to them to turn their minds around, but it does not always happen.

    I don't think Lori Jordan meant any harm by what she said, i think what she may have been trying to say is that part of farming indeed can be cruel, i was raised on a farm so i know,but yes we should not tar everyone with the same brush, young or old, farmer or not,there are people in every race,creed,profession etc who share your FIL attitude,as sad as it is, we as animal lovers can only hope we can influence them and make sure that there are laws to protect animals and that they are abided by.

    Good luck with adopting the other kitty, and i hope you can move out soon, as gosh it must be unbearable living under the same roof as him especially with his arrogance.,you both have my empathy.
    Um, I wasn't the one who quoted and posted about the friends and the barn cats. That was king2005. I don't think they meant any harm, though.

    Thank you.

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    God has a most strange sense of humor and I think people with attitudes like that, God sends them back as the animals they detested and were mean to....

    That OR someday he will be old and helpless and someone will mistreat him. You DON'T get away with stuff like that! God makes sure you get what you give in life!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Laura's Babies
    God has a most strange sense of humor and I think people with attitudes like that, God sends them back as the animals they detested and were mean to....

    That OR someday he will be old and helpless and someone will mistreat him. You DON'T get away with stuff like that! God makes sure you get what you give in life!
    Sounds good to me!

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    Quote Originally Posted by barncat
    Although I am a teacher, I grew up among farms (right next to the family farm and in the barn half the time). Cats were respected working members of the operation. The animals were usually tended by my mom, gram or me. (We didn't go to the doctor either unless it was life threatening.) So please be careful not to lump farmers and country people into one catagory...

    Your father-in-law is a jerk. It is possible he says this stuff to get a reaction...something emotionally sadistic people often do... and would not actually do it. I had an uncle who used to say stuff like that. I used to remind him I knew way more about herbs than he did and if any of my animal friends went missing I might just make him something special... (I probably wouldn't have used anything lethal, but he wasn't sure and it did stop the comments.) Now my other uncles used to bring me orphaned bunnies (cutting hay is inevitably a problem) to raise and set free in the swamp where no one hunted.

    I hope you get to move soon. Living in stress is awful.
    Heh, I grew up (mostly) in Pendleton, Oregon. They live, eat, and breathe farming. As well as the many towns (with populations under twenty) around them. My dad grew up on a farm where they raised pigs, horses, cows, chickens, and sheep. They probably showed them around the area, too. His sister and brother in law, until recently, raised sheep. But I don't think any of them have had any sort of ill will or disregard for other living creatures.

    He went out and shot the orange male (who I believe fathered the most recent litter) because it was playing like cats do! He does say it to make us angry but I whole heartedly believe that he would go through with it, too. Thank you so much for raising those bunnies!

    It is terrible but we are escaping ASAP.

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