Need drinking advice (Adult Advice)

[king2005]

All I will say is "know when to stop". Drinking isn't compulsory, you don't have to match everyone else drink for drink and it isn't a crime to leave your glass with drink still in it............

I would never do that. I'm not interested in getting drunk off my rocker like that. I'm only interested in a drink or 2, I just don't know my limit yet, so I wont drink more then 1 until I see how it goes. I more then likely wont even drink 2.

[BitsyNaceyDog]

I don't see the harm in having an occasional drink. Justin has a beer every now and then. I personally don't really like too much in the way of alcoholic drinks. We went to our friends' house the other night and they made margaritas. I had about 4 sips of mine and then I was done. I do like some 'chick drinks', but rarely drink them.

[moosmom]

would really re-think your current ideas....they don't seem to be consistent with last weeks. AND, while I didn't go back and search every post, I **think** you are the person that repeatedly posts things about a sister that had issues, and how you would NEVER drink??? I might be confused, and if so, I apologize, but, your current actions seem to be in conflict with your past actions. I know you are resistant to professional help (as you have posted that), and that you thought Rob could see you through any issue...but, things seem to be a little unsettled in your life right now, and I just can't see how alcohol will benefit you.

Thanks Johanna!!!

I think given the circumstances, you don't need to learn to drink right now. I think adding alcohol to your life would only complicate things. Just my honest opinion.

[Cataholic]

Bob's Dad- thank you for taking the time to post what I wanted to, but, was too cowardly.

I have often thought it, but, didn't want to offend- you need to explore counseling.

[jenluckenbach]

I would like to add a comment on this quote.

I can't do squat at big work meetings as there is always booze, nor go to the bars with work employees.

That is BULL COOKIES! The only thing you can't do at those gatherings is drink alcohol. I am certain you would be welcome with or without an alcoholic drink in your hand.

From the family history you just listed above I would say extremely strongly that you are much better off NOT starting. There is no need.

[Rio&Nickysmommy]

I read most of the post but felt this was such an important topic.
I started drinking at a young age of 15. My parents were divorced so I had a lot of times with my friends. I admitt to myself know that I was and I guess still am an alcoholic- I havent drank in over 9 years. My Dad has been an alcholic for most of his life he is sober for about 4 years now.

Most important is that you drink responsibly. Sounds like you are a responsible person, so that is great. Many people can handle a cocktail or drink or two.

I think the problem with drinking when you have problems is that in numbs you. So it might not be the time to try it. I hate bars. I think its wierd to see the most beautiful girl walk in a bar and a few hours later- they look horrible. I know from my drinking I woke up and sobered up and I was married to a man I could not stand. Once I stopped drinking it took me years to get my self confidence back because the alcohol always made me strong and confident. I dont think I ever intended to get so heavy into drinking at the time but was what my friends where doing. Then one day woke up could not stand having hangover and stuff and quit. So if you drink think of me and never go the way I did. A old high school friend contacted me a few months ago wanted to go out and drink and said they wanted me to drink them under the table. I told them times have changed. Hence I think that label will stick with me forever. Believe me at 40+ not proud I was drunk almost half my life.

Not trying to scare you sounds like you knew all this already. What ever you do make sure you feel good about you and take care of you.
Rio&Nickysmommy

[carole]

I think you would be wise to seek counselling too King2005, and I think you are very vunerable right now and adding drinking into an already complex situation would be extremely bad and a very bad decision on your part, on the whole you have always struck me as a very sensible young person, so I think you will make the right choice here, i see red flags too, you mentioned that you had grandfathers who were both drunks, that is a warning sign IMO, that indeed alcoholism is in your family, so be careful.

I don't think in anyway anyone is saying drinking is either good or bad or evil, myself included, moderation is the key as is with everything, trouble is so few of us human beings can actually achieve that and to those who do in everything in their life i take my hat off to you.

Again i will say i think it would be foolish of you to start drinking now, can you tell me WHY??? you want to drink, do you think you will enjoy the taste, the experience or what? is it a way of socialising or what? you will be less inhibited if you have a drink in you or what? I am just lost as to what your reasons are for starting.

Honestly if you think you need to drink for whatever reason then go ahead, but just be prepared for the down side of drinking, unless you are one of those rare people who are in control, you are going to experience that IMO.

Most people who enjoy a drink or two do enjoy the feeling it gives them.relaxing them, and just that nice warm feeling, if you can stop there then that is fine, but unfortunately very few actually can,let us hope you are one of them, because it seems you are determined to take this path regardless of any advice given here, so I can only hope you find drinking a nice experience and not the usual experience that it is for most.

p.s I agree with Jen too, it is rubbish to say you cannot enjoy yourself without alcohol, because you sure can.

[catnapper]

Well, I was thinking about this earlier and didn't get a change to mention it, but with your allergies, there's a HIGH chance you'll also be allergic to alcohol. I am one of those "lucky" folks who is. Just a teaspoon of alcohol is enough to make me sick for a week. I wake up the next morning with the hangover from heck simply by eating beer battered chicken (don't try to tell me that the alcohol burns off - my day after hangover says otherwise)

Everyone has different reactions to alcohol, and if you have strong reactions to many common meds and foods, you're highly likely to have a negative reaction to alocohol.

Thanks to my sensitivity to alcohol, I spent many nights at parties and clubs drinking ginger ale or water. I still had a ball out with my friends and never felt like I missed out on any of the fun. I actually liked it BETTER because when they started to get silly and dopey, I still was in full control of myself.

[Catty1]

Alcoholism is an illness, a family illness. It RUNS IN FAMILIES.

Big danger zone here, King. Please check in with your doctor ASAP.

HUGS HUGS HUGS

Catty1

[Cataholic]

I don't think in anyway anyone is saying drinking is either good or bad or evil, myself included, moderation is the key as is with everything, trouble is so few of us human beings can actually achieve that and to those who do in everything in their life i take my hat off to you.

Honestly if you think you need to drink for whatever reason then go ahead, but just be prepared for the down side of drinking, unless you are one of those rare people who are in control, you are going to experience that IMO.

Most people who enjoy a drink or two do enjoy the feeling it gives them.relaxing them, and just that nice warm feeling, if you can stop there then that is fine, but unfortunately very few actually can,let us hope you are one of them, because it seems you are determined to take this path regardless of any advice given here, so I can only hope you find drinking a nice experience and not the usual experience that it is for most.

Carole, I REALLY take exception to your comments above. I drink, members of my family drink, many of my friends drink. All of us, without exception, are 'in control', and are able to 'stop there' with a few drinks. I recognize that there are people that cannot, but, to somehow suggest that ALL people cannot is far from the truth. I know I must come across as some big-time drinker/party girl (woman??),and nothing could be further from the truth. Drinking a glass or two of wine is a nice experience for me. I am no more or less of a person when I drink. Alcohol, itself, is not the 'devil'. It is the people that have an addiction AND drink that makes the problem.

Painting a picture that it is an all or nothing proposition is irresponsible to those that might be thinkinhg of taking a drink. The hell that you know is better than the hell that you don't. To make it seem so mysterious, and mind altering is just making it 'taboo', which seems to make it more tempting for people.

Johanna