Need drinking advice (Adult Advice)

[lizbud]

I'm just trying to understand WHY you want to start drinking, what's the point?


As others have said, with all of your recent down time, from whay you've told us this especially isn't the time to start drinking.

Very good question. You might not even like the taste of beer. Why do
you want to anesthetize yourself to be in a bar? You can meet good guys
just joining a club certered around hobbies or something.

[moosmom]

I have this haunting question in my mind.
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WHY??????

Why on earth would you want to learn how to drink? :curious: It's NOT a skill nor is it a sport. It's a serious disease. Ask ANY person with a predisposition to alcoholism. It's NOT fun.

If you've never tasted liquor (I don't care what kind it is) then you won't know what you're missing. By that I mean, hangovers, drunken blackouts, memory loss, embarassing situations (I've had MANY), vomiting all over yourself while in a drunken blackout, not to mention your liver looking like a dried up prune. NOT BEING IN CONTROL!! Those are the one's I've been through. [B]Can anyone else here share?[/BOLD]

Sorry to be so graphic, but there no way to sugar coat alcohol.
Okay, I've given my usual AA lecture for today.

How about going into "Thursdays" and having a round or two with me. It's alot safer AND you wake up the next day feeling great, with your sobriety still intact!

If you STILL want to try drinking, *sigh*, (Just worry about ya! try out a frozen drink. My daughter's favorite is a Madouri Sour.

Good luck and please...DRINK RESPONSIBLY

[Jessika]

Aw come on guys, drinking on occasion, not to get drunk, is not a bad thing like you're making it out to be. There is responsible and irresponsible drinking. In this specific case, if you are on medication for other things etc it may not be a good idea, in fact it is NOT a good idea to EVER mix medication and alcohol.

But in general drinking is not evil or a bad thing. Drinking responsibly on occasion is one thing; going out every night to bars to get wasted is another.

[My Peanuts]

I drink sometimes. Not nearly as much as I did in college. I drink and get drunk (not stupid falling down drunk, but legally drunk.) I see nothing wrong with it in moderation and the fact that you are asking questions means you want to do it responsibly. I’m sure you know not to drive or let someone drive you that’s been drinking.

You said your parents don't drink so alcoholism doesn't run in your family (or didn't have the chance to show up) which is good but doesn't mean you don't have it. Don't drink to help with feelings or to forget about something that's bothering you.

For your first time, drink slow and much less than you think you should. Don't drink shots; they will sneak up on you too fast. Sip a beer, or a mixed drink. I like Vodka and cranberry (not sure if you are allergic to cranberry juice too). Otherwise Mike's hard lemonade is good, but more than 2 burn my stomach because of the acid.

Alcoholism does run in my family, but I certainly don't have a problem. I used to drink a lot in college because it was social and it was fun and I wasn't addicted. Now I drink much less and most of the time when the opportunity arises I don't even indulge.

[slleipnir]

I honestly don't see any harm in a drink or 2. I personally like a drink now and then. If I had a long, hard day, then I find a drink relaxes me a little. I've never been a big drinker. I've never even been drunk. However, I do like to have a drink once in a while.

[jenluckenbach]

Let's start by saying, I am 43 and I never learned to drink (as you put it). I can't even handle the smell, why would I want to go further??? (same reason I never smoked)

I would never tell any person who enjoys a beer or wine (or any alcoholic drink) on occassion, that it is wrong. But I ASSUME it is because they LIKE it! If you need to "learn to drink" it sounds like you feel the need to (not because it gives you a bit of enjoyment, but because it is cool???)

If you happen to try a beer or some wine, and find you like the taste, then have 1 or 2 once in a while. But what happens if you force yourself to drink something alcoholic and your body reacts badly? What if that is all it takes to prove you have no control over what alchohol does to you? An alchohlic doesn't KNOW he/she is an alchoholic, not usually until the drinks start to run and ruin their lives. I just can't imagine purposely putting yourself in that possible danger.

So I guess my first advice would be "DON'T FORCE YOURSELF." and after that I would say start with something small and be true to yourself about how it makes you feel.

[moosmom]

Ever hear of Karen Ann Quinlan?http://www.ascensionhealth.org/ethic...ses/case21.asp

[Cataholic]

JenL and Jessika have thoughts similar to my own. I drink, and have since I was 15 or 16, I suppose. I enjoy a glass or two of wine, a cold beer on occasion, and sometimes a chick drink! For me, it is something I enjoy, in moderation.

I don't know why you want to try NOW something you haven't had before, other than as an effort to test your wings, and maybe put something between you and Rob. "Look, Rob, I can drink now, too" is what comes to mind.

Anti-depressants and alcohol do not mix. At all.

[king2005]

JenL and Jessika have thoughts similar to my own. I drink, and have since I was 15 or 16, I suppose. I enjoy a glass or two of wine, a cold beer on occasion, and sometimes a chick drink! For me, it is something I enjoy, in moderation.

I don't know why you want to try NOW something you haven't had before, other than as an effort to test your wings, and maybe put something between you and Rob. "Look, Rob, I can drink now, too" is what comes to mind.

Anti-depressants and alcohol do not mix. At all.

I'm not on any form of medications. I don't do well on any medication (I'm going to avoid all meds at all costs, except my allergy meds as its a once a week or once a month thing.. its random when I take it). I didn't even know I was allergic to the Pill & the Patch until I left Rob. My head suddenly cleared up, I was no longer randomly sad, my skin issues are gone (just touching me use to hurt so much), I can remember things (I had a hard time remember how to spell my own name & couldn't remember my own phone # & could hardly count...Now, I learned my new phone # in just reading it once!).

I met Rob when I was 16yrs old & hes Anti-Drinking big time, so I just never drank. Both of my grandfathers are drunks. One hit me (hes dead now.. not to be mean, but thank goodness!), The other is still around & hes a happy drunk. All my friends back home have the odd beer here & there. I can't do squat at big work meetings as there is always booze, nor go to the bars with work employees.

My dads brother was never sober, but never drunk either & hes very welloff. My moms brothers are crazy party animals, but they are into drugs aswell, so I tend to ignore them 99% of the time.

My sister use to get wasted to the point of being ill, due to what mom put her through (mom got counclers to try to make us say that dad touched us! It was a living hell & she drank to get away.. I just dissapeared into the forest for up to 12hrs/day with my old dog to get away).

I don't think I'm depressed (I was sad & upset as he was cheating on me) as I haven't had a single Anxity attack since I've moved out... I talk to my dad daily on MSN (while I'm at work) & on the phone (when I'm at home). I also have a good support team (unlike when Max was murdered, but I think the Pill & the Patch had made that far worse for me then it should have been) this time.

I just wanted to do this right.