Need drinking advice (Adult Advice)

[Karen]

Best not to go alone to a bar, as you don't know how alcohol will affect you. Drinking isn't a necessary socialability, so dunno why you'd like to start, but even if you are going to drink at home, invite a friend over, as if you get drunk, you won't be a good judge of your actions anyway.

If you can find a friend to go out with you, you can always make sure you have a snack before you go, so the alcohol won't hit you on an empty stomach, and alternate glasses of alcoholic stuff with nonalcoholic - bars always have gingerale, and I'd often order a ginger ale/orange juice combination if I didn't feel like getting harrassed about "not drinking," people just assume it's a screwdriver.

[carole]

Why even start, drinking is a waste of time IMO, you can live a happy life without it,if you must i would just drink a little , but then how many people can actually drink a little and not stop, believe me you are missing nothing, hangovers are not much fun, personally i now hate the taste of alcohol,so I am now a teetotaller,(and no i did not have a drinking problem) but if i had my life over again, i would never ever drink, one just does not need to.,but its your life and up to you,but remember you have no idea how alcohol will affect you, you could be one of the unlucky ones who cannot control your drinking, or then again you may have no problem, but why even take the risk.

My advice is DONT START. I don't mean to sound unkind, but I think to start now at 24 is plain foolish, if you have had no desire to drink before why now, ask yourself that? please.

I agree with the others, you seem to be turning to drinking at a time that is not a good one for you, please try and find another healthy alternative, you asked for advice, but reading your further post you dont really seem to be listening, however it is your life, so if you must, you must i guess, but i hope you change your mind on pursing a drinking habit.

I have been unlucky enough in my life to be in two relationships with alcoholic men, (yep i sure can pick em)so my experience is anything but good, and maybe i am being paranoid about it, but i am concerned for your welfare, please take care,you are only young with all your future ahead of you, I hope starting to drink does not become a huge mistake for you. HUGS.

[caseysmom]

This is just my opinion but considering all you have gone through lately I wouldn't think this would be a good time to start drinking. If you are curious just measure a half cup of beer and throw the rest out, alcohol has a way of creeping up on you.

You have been really strong through all this all on your own.

[king2005]

If you can find a friend to go out with you, you can always make sure you have a snack before you go, so the alcohol won't hit you on an empty stomach, and alternate glasses of alcoholic stuff with nonalcoholic - bars always have gingerale, and I'd often order a ginger ale/orange juice combination if I didn't feel like getting harrassed about "not drinking," people just assume it's a screwdriver.

Karen is there something besides Orange Juice? I cannot drink Orange or grape juices as I'm allergic (I can eat an orange & grapes, just not the juice, esp. the fake stuff).

I think I'll try 1 beer home alone tonight to see how I react to it. There are others in the house, so if I feel sick or have an allergic reaction, helps not too far away (& they have a car).

[Jessika]

Best for starters - do not drink more than 1 every hour. If you do only drink 1 an hour, you should be fine. Just don't over do it. If you start feeling a little lightheaded - stop.

Also, I HATE beer! It tastes SO gross. I prefer the "chick" drinks Like Smirnoff Ice, Bacardi Silver, my FAVORITE though is Smirnoff Twist Triple Black. But be careful with those, though. It doesn't taste like beer so you can easily drink a lot in one sitting, then stand up, and be like "WHOA".

I totally just sounded like a teenager with that last statement, but that's honestly how it goes.

If you think you're overdoing it, just stop.

Also -- beer before liquor gets you sicker. Liquor before beer and you're in the clear.

[Kfamr]

I'm just trying to understand WHY you want to start drinking, what's the point?


As others have said, with all of your recent down time, from whay you've told us this especially isn't the time to start drinking.

[critter crazy]

I havent had a drink in a long time and i cant say that i miss it at all!!!! Not saying that i drank alot, mostly just two or three with friends or family. But i stopped maybe over a year gao and i have felt so good about it! I wouldnt start. there is realy no real reason to. JMO!!

[carole]

King2005 i have added quite a bit to my original post, i hope you take the time to go back and read it please.

[Husky_mom]

i really second Kay, i havent drank a zip in my life (27 now) and dont want to, i never felt like a stranger if i was with people who drank, i always asked for a LEMONADE LOL..........even today i still ask lemonade.........

i dont want you to get me wrong but if you havent drank why start now?, dont let anyone push you to do so or do it because you feel bad if you dont......if you really want to do it just try to go slow and be very sure that you really want to..........

[lizbud]

I'm just trying to understand WHY you want to start drinking, what's the point?


As others have said, with all of your recent down time, from whay you've told us this especially isn't the time to start drinking.

Very good question. You might not even like the taste of beer. Why do
you want to anesthetize yourself to be in a bar? You can meet good guys
just joining a club certered around hobbies or something.

[moosmom]

I have this haunting question in my mind.
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WHY??????

Why on earth would you want to learn how to drink? :curious: It's NOT a skill nor is it a sport. It's a serious disease. Ask ANY person with a predisposition to alcoholism. It's NOT fun.

If you've never tasted liquor (I don't care what kind it is) then you won't know what you're missing. By that I mean, hangovers, drunken blackouts, memory loss, embarassing situations (I've had MANY), vomiting all over yourself while in a drunken blackout, not to mention your liver looking like a dried up prune. NOT BEING IN CONTROL!! Those are the one's I've been through. [B]Can anyone else here share?[/BOLD]

Sorry to be so graphic, but there no way to sugar coat alcohol.
Okay, I've given my usual AA lecture for today.

How about going into "Thursdays" and having a round or two with me. It's alot safer AND you wake up the next day feeling great, with your sobriety still intact!

If you STILL want to try drinking, *sigh*, (Just worry about ya! try out a frozen drink. My daughter's favorite is a Madouri Sour.

Good luck and please...DRINK RESPONSIBLY

[Jessika]

Aw come on guys, drinking on occasion, not to get drunk, is not a bad thing like you're making it out to be. There is responsible and irresponsible drinking. In this specific case, if you are on medication for other things etc it may not be a good idea, in fact it is NOT a good idea to EVER mix medication and alcohol.

But in general drinking is not evil or a bad thing. Drinking responsibly on occasion is one thing; going out every night to bars to get wasted is another.

[beeniesmom]

I'm just trying to understand WHY you want to start drinking, what's the point?


As others have said, with all of your recent down time, from whay you've told us this especially isn't the time to start drinking.

I agree with Kfmr and also think that your question is a strange one.
Is this a request for help?
You really shouldn't drink if you are on meds, as others have said.
I don't drink regularly, but have an occasional beer. Maybe once every few weeks just because I like the taste and the coldness.

[*JTM*Coco*pi*Caramel*]

Hmmmmmmm if you haven't drank before, why start? I mean I do drink, I will be 21 in july, and I started drinking before I was legal to, (19 in Canada) so I really started when I was like honestly 14! Not proud of that! If I had never drank before like you, and brought drinking into my lifestyle/friends, I don't think I would really ever start. I don't really drink now except for a glass of wine at dinner or something and I don't go to the bar really either.

Drinking is a responsability and you have obviously thought it out and seem like a sensible person so if thats what you have your mind set on I guess then go for it. I wouldn't reccomend going to the bar first off, and I would drink with someone you trust. Your plan seems pretty good, except for the Keiths part I spent 2 years in Halifax going to university where Keiths beer was first brewed and it is not the best beer! Some ppl like it I guess but I think thats just cause they want to drink Keiths cause it's Keiths, not cause it taste good! You kinda have to have a tast for beer but try a light one maybe first. I wouldnt reccomend getting into the hard stuff though! Not now anyways! Hope that helps and good luck!

Edit: I didn't realize that you were having troubles in your life right now, so what I previously said would only apply if you are in a good emotional state and place in life. Because I drank so early, I learned the hard way, and I drank when I was depressed and when I was on medication and was irresponsible (then again I was too young). I don't want anyone to think I grew up in a bad family or anything because I didn't I had really strict parents I just rebelled and I live in a small town where drinking is the pass time. I regret starting and am so thankful I didnt become an alcoholic. Like I said I now only drink a glass of wine with supper occasionaly and thats it. Honestly, depression and drinking leads down a dirty road that you don't want to go down that caused me a lot of bad situations and messes (socially and physically). I really would not drink if I were you. I hope things are going ok with you and that you make whatever decision best suits your life right now