If the only way to keep the child quiet and behaved is to put her in front of a personal dvd player, then there are some serious problems with that. That child has total control over them. Part of learning how to behave is misbehaving. If she were to freak out in the restaurant, then you get up and leave. I saw a woman do this the other day with her child. At the store, the child was acting badly, the mother told him if he didn't behave, that they were going to leave. so he acted up, they left. about twenty minutes later, i saw them walking around the store again, he was acting like he should, and, you could tell that they'd talked about it. i dont' know, i think the dvd player, the tv, that type of thing is just a cop out for not knowing how to deal with the child. and, no i don't have any children, so maybe I **don't** know what it's like. It's still my opinion, and, I hope I keep it even after I have children.